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bestTalker9406
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I miss him
Anxiety Support / by bestTalker9406
Last post
 February 12th, 2025
...See more I'm in a no contact with him since 5 weeks. He hurt me a lot but I still miss him because he was my bestfriend. I actually lost a lot of self respect for him so I don't want to initiate contact again. He was not putting efforts even in friendship. So I'm on a move on road but I miss him a lot. We had a special bond. I'm confused as to he is not contacting because he genuinely does not care or because he is feeling guilty for his actions.
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Missing someone
Anxiety Support / by bestTalker9406
Last post
 January 18th, 2025
...See more Sometimes you miss someone so much, you feel like you can't breathe. But that's not the worst part, the worst part is the other person may not miss you at all and is going on with life so easily when you can't help but only hurt. Despite knowing the fact that the person used and hurt you, you are good and loved hard so it is more difficult for you. I hope I get good things and good people too. Soo tired of this unhappiness, for once I want to feel loved too.
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Difficulty getting over my ex who was my bestfriend.
20 & Over / by bestTalker9406
Last post
 December 31st, 2024
...See more He was my bestfriend for a year, then I confessed my feelings, he said he sees me as his bro, I was not hurt I was completely okay with it because I was not confessing for anything in return. We were still bestfriends but after a week he called and said he likes me too. But the thing is at that same time he said he is in need of money. I refused him for an hour for my own traumatic reasons but he kept convincing me and then I gave in. He said he would return it in 48 hours which he was not able to but it didn't bother me then. Do know he still has money to return to me from the past as well. And then we were in a long distance relationship for a week. He went home after a week after completing his internship and he naturally got busy that day and he called in the evening and said my mom wants me to marry a girl of her choice. We decided he tell his mom that he is interested in someone else and fight for me. But he did not fight with his mom because of her health. I told him to try again the next day but eventually the next day he said it will not be possible and we broke up. He texted me after two days to ask me how I was. It was a very small convo. Then he texted me after 5 days asking about me and I asked him a lot of questions for closure. I asked did you see the girl? He said I refused for marriage. I was like now your mom is ok with you unmarried? He said if they don't do what I want I won't agree with them. Then I asked if he genuinely liked me because there were zero efforts from him both in friendship and relationship. He said yes. So the next day I said if you liked me why did you not fight for me, he was like I was still figuring out my feelings. I said then you should not confess if you don't have it figured out. After me asking a series of questions he thinks maybe he does not actually likes me he just feels that way because I'm caring and supportive and the only one who he talks to the most. He said forget all the attachment with me and be friends with me the way we were before. How can I do this magically? He said I didn't know you would get frustrated because of my text, you have lot of issues so solve them first and then we will talk about my problems. This hurt a lot because he is completely not acknowledging my feelings and only thinking about himself. I told him to return all my money till 31st of December. It's been two weeks since this last conversation and he hasn't texted back. I'm the one who is genuinely hurt and feel used so why should I text first. He was greatly emphasising on being friends so he should be the one putting efforts for it. He is claiming he has not used me, the situation is making it seem like it, only he knows the reality. I was not sad when he rejected me the first time but I'm hurt now because he gave me hopes for a week and then did this.
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A genuine question
20 & Over / by bestTalker9406
Last post
 September 2nd, 2024
...See more How to know if a guy likes you? Specifically asking, how to find out if my male friend likes me or not? Tell me from your experience.
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My favourite quote from Funny Story
Reading & Writing / by bestTalker9406
Last post
 September 7th, 2024
...See more " I don't want you to look at me like I'm broken" Many of us do this, we avoid telling people the worst parts of us, the anxiety we face over little things, how over sensitive we are, how we care way too much and cry way too much, our insecurities, how we are barely surviving because we don't want them to look at us and know how broken we are, because if they know they might not want to be with us. I think this is what I'm doing too. I used to tell about my anxieties to my male friend but now I'm trying not to because I want him to be with me more and more, I don't want him to distance himself, I don't want him to think I'm some immature person he has to kinda babysit. I'm trying to be more courageous, I'm trying to make myself better and trying hard to become a high value women even though I'm barely surviving just so he would maybe want to be my friend forever, so that he would not be fed up of me, so that he would think of me as those girls who are confident and independent, so that he would think of me as a fun person, so that he would smile because of me, so that he would think of coming to me whenever he wants to feel happy, so that he would want to call me every other day, so that he would maybe love me and so that I don't feel like I don't deserve him because he is a better person than me and I'm too sensitive for this world.
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New favourite quote
Reading & Writing / by bestTalker9406
Last post
 August 9th, 2024
...See more If a person let's you down, it's time to reconsider what you are asking of them. From the book Funny Story by Emily Henry.
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Friendship
20 & Over / by bestTalker9406
Last post
 August 4th, 2024
...See more Will you wish Happy friendship day to your friends who won't wish first from their side?
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Current read?
Reading & Writing / by bestTalker9406
Last post
 August 7th, 2024
...See more Hello friends What is your current read?
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