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bunnygarden
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Class subjects are upsetting me a lot
Anxiety Support / by bunnygarden
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 January 21st, 2022
...See more I've been taking two classes. The first, "Human Sexuality" refers to genitals as strictly male or female. Even in discussions, other members in the class suggest that all people with a vagina or capable of an abortion have to be female. It's extremely distressing as a trans person to see them actively misgender me by talking about parts of my body and saying that if I have them, I must be a woman. The second is "Human Growth & Development". I didn't realize how many people in the class were going to be parents with small children or how much the class was centered upon it. For example, several adult stages of life as described in terms of a person becoming a parent and raising their offspring. Lectures about what makes a good parent. I came here to learn about sociocultural and psychological stages, not about how to raise kids! I never want to have children, and I hate that it supposedly defines my adult life...
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I don't know how I'll ever be able to have a job
Anxiety Support / by bunnygarden
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 December 5th, 2021
...See more I'm genuinely terrified because I don't know how I'm ever going to make enough money to survive. I tried working at Pizza Hut but over six months I had a manager who specifically liked to yell at me and scare me because it was funny to her, and I had to work over my shift every day. I tried working at Walmart for a week but the 10-hour stocking shifts destroyed my hands and body. I felt so sore every morning that I could barely walk and my hands were covered in cuts and scrapes. I don't know how I'll be able to survive. I'm terrified of people and awful for customer service. After this I feel more physically weak than ever, so I can't even do brute labor jobs. I feel like there's nothing that I'm suited for, and now I won't have any way of getting income after this last paycheck.
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How to deal with bad regrets?
Anxiety Support / by bunnygarden
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 October 26th, 2021
...See more Every day I'm mostly alright until I'm about to go to bed. Then I seems like my worst regrets in life flood back to me and I feel awful. Even if some were so long ago I don't know how to let go of them or if there's any way I feel like I could ever make amends for what happened then. What can I do?
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Addiction to Dopamine - Any alternatives?
Addiction Support / by bunnygarden
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 October 24th, 2021
...See more I have an addiction to entering and winning giveaways. In practicing mindfulness I've recognized that I repeat this action because it gives me access to easy dopamine. I think that my behavior has led to some impressive wins but has become unhealthy and obsessive for me. Are there any other good fixes/ways to get the dopamine that I need? One example I found is playing progressive video games so that I can watch my character level up, gain skills, etc. I also love gardening but I feel like the dopamine there is much more progressive than the near-instant gratification that I'm used to. But maybe I do need to slowly work down to where I can be comfortable with less dopamine.
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Anxiety About Getting A Job
Anxiety Support / by bunnygarden
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 October 18th, 2021
...See more I'm 22-years-old and my family both jokingly and seriously refer to me as lazy, a moocher, entitled, or all three. This is because, well, I have really bad anxiety about getting a job. When I was 18 I was really excited to work and make money and I landed a position at a Pizza Hut. I dealt with a manager who would scream at me randomly because she thought it was funny when I jumped, she would stand above me and talk down to me in an aggressive way and then shrug it off as "you know I'm joking, right?" and she would sexually harass me like pushing my head against her pants when I leaned down to grab something under the make table. I had another manager that insisted I couldn't go home unless all of my work was done, there weren't any customers, and the chef after me showed up on time. I always fulfilled the first but the second two never happened. Most days I had to stay an hour late. That turned into having to stay for dinner rush. So I'm incredibly anxious about applying to jobs or imagining working somewhere again. But I know that I have to because 1) I need at least 6+ months of having a job at minimum to be able to rent an apartment or house, and 2) I need to make money so I can move out, pay my own bills, etc. At my age my parents have started pulling back on buying things for me. I haven't seen a dentist in two years. But I'm scared of having a really negative job experience again. I guess something that might help me is exercising positive thinking instead when imagining applying for a job. What if these might be my new best friends? What if this is the most fun place to work and I don't know yet?
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