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calmLunch2881
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Sex life struggling.
Relationship Stress / by calmLunch2881
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 January 28th, 2025
...See more I'm struggling with depression for 9Y. 3Y ago it was intensified by postpartum depression. My housband is my first lover, and we are struggling with our sex life for past 9Y. His libido was much higher than mine to start with, but mine is nonexistent at times. This lead to many arguments resulting in compromises where I performed sex activities when I didn't feel like it. That led to me disliking sex, but felt the need to satisfy him. Now I know that the pressure for sex led to me hating the act altogether. My housband had many complaints of my non happy face during sex and me treating it as a chore. 1Y ago I stopped breastfeeding to start different meds (psychotropic) in hopes that they would bring my libido back. Turns out my problems are more complex and ofc that did not work. I'm starting psychotherapy with sexuologist, to cover my dislike for sex. Housband wants a divorce, because in past 2 months I did not bring him to ***. I don't want to hurt my child with divorce and cause him attachment problems. Should I just go back to having sex (including oral)? Maybe a divorce is a good idea? Any ideas for other fix to satisfy my housband? He pushes for divorce on daily basis now and wants me to agree to shared custody, but since I'm the main caregiver to our child I don't agree on that being a good solution.
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