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ceejay37
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Struggling bring inside my own mind
Depression Support / by ceejay37
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 July 24th, 2024
...See more Really finding it hard to overlook things that were said & done between my wife & I during our separation, things she did & said are literally haunting me daily, we’re back together & trying to make a real go of it & she’s really supportive but I’m currently struggling with depression & anxiety, the things she did & said have destroyed me, I’m trying so hard to move on from it but I just feel so inadequate, paranoid, and just half the man I was, I love her dearly but just feel like the damage is irreversible & I find myself overthinking things constantly, I end up going quiet now cause when we talk it sounds like I’m attacking her but I’m not it just hurts, just can’t accept it, it’s literally suffocating me, I have nobody to talk to, no friends, just want us back & to feel like me again, some days I just wish the day away & some days I hope I don’t wake up, at least then I’d have some peace from my own mind, it’s just exhausting & not sure how much I’ve got left in the tank 😞
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Relationship Stress / by ceejay37
Last post
 July 11th, 2024
...See more I'm m37 my wife f38, we separated 6 months ago and both slept with other people, we're trying to fix things now but the way she told me has really stuck & im struggling with anxiety & depression aswell, how do I get past this feeling of inadequacy? So we were just starting to sort things out & at this point she knew l'd slept with 2 other people, she came home drunk and ask me to have sex with her cause she's ***, which I replied not whilst your drunk, you might regret it tomorrow, also which I found out later with the intention to meet another guy in a hotel the next day, I did say l'd sort her out as I didn't want her going elsewhere, I love her and wanted to get things back on track, so whilst I was initiating foreplay she asked me why I won't have sex with her & I said cause I've slept with other people & id like us to get tested first & your drunk, she relied "well I *** a guy on holiday last week", whilst I'm currently in the process of relieving her urges, as you can imagine that sent my head into overdrive, I asked questions I didn't want to know the answers too ie was he bigger & better than me which she replied yes, she regrets this now cause she was drunk but it's really rattled me to the point where I can no longer get a proper ***, I feel so small & inadequate, then to make things worse I saw messages on our shared computer to her friend ( admittedly it was while we were separated) about a guy she was planning on meeting & how big he was & how she wants him to destroy her p***y, this had added to my insecurity that l'm just never going to be able to satisfy her like she's had already, I don't believe I'm that small but I can't help but feel 2nd best now & I worry when we do have sex she's imagining it him, how do I shake this feeling, it literally kills me, I love my wife dearly & just want feel like I'm enough for her ☹️
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How do you overcome the feeling of inadequacy & the anxiety & thoughts of just not being enough
Relationship Stress / by ceejay37
Last post
 June 25th, 2024
...See more Hi, me & my wife separated beginning of the year, still lived together, we both slept with other people, we have being trying to work things out & we’re doing ok but she told me about the guy she slept with in a way that I just can’t shake off, it’s had major issues with my self worth & I struggle to be intimate now, my anxiety about it is through the roof, it just feels like I’m second best & I don’t see how I can overcome that now or in the future 😔
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