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chancey55
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Number of ratings30 Number of reviews21 Listens toOver 18 LanguagesEnglish Listener sinceFeb 15, 2019 Last activeover 6 months ago GenderFemale PathStep 80 People helped88 Chats194 Listener group chats3 Forum posts14 Forum upvotes22
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“Never to suffer would never to have been blessed.” – Edgar Allan Poe

Hi, I'm Chancey, and I'm here to help.

I truly care about people and have a strong desire to help. I personally have OCD and BPD, and struggle with trauma as well as some other issues, so if you are struggling with similar things, feel free to connect with me. Talking to someone who truly understands your struggle could be very beneficial, at least I hope so. I take on chats involving multiple topics, including but not limited to: Anxiety, depression, and other mood or personality disorders; drug and alcohol abuse; trauma; grief and loss; breakups and relationship problems; student and work stress; LGBTQ; etc. I want to help you, and I will try my darndest to do so! 

You can come to me with pretty much anything, and I will try my best to be patient, empathetic, and understanding. However, please avoid messaging me with topics involving pedophilia, incest, abuse, and rape, unless you yourself are a victim of those (I am here to support victims in any way I can, I just do not wish to interact with people struggling with themselves being pedophiliacs, incestuous, abusers, or rapists). Also, it is important for me to note that I have a job and other things going on- so I will be a bit inactive. Shoot me a message and I'll try to respond as soon as I can, but if you need someone to talk to at a specific time, feel free to look for another Listener. 

Some additional facts about me:
I love Edgar Allan Poe (and writing and reading in general), cats, space, aesthetics, and a lot more. I do not love bugs, roller coasters, or rude people. 
I am a fan of Star Wars, Harry Potter, Percy Jackson, and Warrior Cats, amongst other things. 
I have a boyfriend of a year and a half, and I love him with all of my heart and soul.
I plan to be a civil lawyer, and I have goals of joining the Innocence Project as well as, someday, being a Supreme Court Judge.

... and last but not least,
I love people, truly, of all types. I think that everybody deserves a chance to be heard and cared for!
Recent forum posts
finding friends in a world where it feels like you have none
Relationship Stress / by chancey55
Last post
 March 15th, 2019
...See more So, you're feeling lonely. I've been there. I am there. Everybody is or has been there at some point in their life. But, it's really tough to admit to ourselves that sometimes we isolate ourselves. We push people away, because we're hurting. We do it on purpose, sometimes. Most of the time, though, we do it without even realizing. We push our feelings and thoughts and interests and everything that makes us unique into boxes and store it far away somewhere. We get quiet. We stay at home after turning down some sort of meetup that sounded terrible because we didn't feel like getting out of bed. We make excuses, or find things to do so we don't have to make connections. And it doesn't make us bad. It just makes us lonely, and nobody has to be lonely. Sure, you might be different. You might have flaws. Everybody has flaws. But, you have things about you that are amazing and cool, and other people share those same things, or at least are incredibly happy to be around someone who does. Making connections is as easy as complimenting someone on a shirt that displays a character from a movie you really like, and maybe asking them about their thoughts on (x scene, x pairing, etc). It's as easy as seeing someone struggling to do something that you understand, and asking them if they need any help, perhaps even taking the time to explain to them so they understand, too. Yes, I do know that getting the courage to talk to a stranger is hard. I know that the fear of rejection, the fear of confrontation, the fear of being ignored or disliked... I know that it fills your heart and it makes it really difficult to try. But, you can do it. You really can. I believe in you. Ground yourself. Focus on your breathing. Tell yourself that it is going to be okay. Practice online, join some chatrooms and talk to people you haven't met before (obviously in a safe way). But, please try. You don't have to be alone. There are people out there who can truly care about you, who you can have wonderful times with and create beautiful memories! The seed of connection is difficult to plant, and it takes a bit of time and a bit of TLC. But, when the seed finally blooms, a lovely flower can emerge. Plant that seed, grow that flower! You can do it! What are some tips you have for creating friendships? And perhaps for keeping them?
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Really good listener. She really gave me a safe space to unload. She responded to my emotional discharge with compassion. I felt validated, reassured and motivated to keep going. I can't tell you how much I appreciated the chat.
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