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chelseabelsey
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Masochism or self harm?
Relationship Stress / by chelseabelsey
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 September 29th, 2025
...See more I've discovered I'm a sexual masochist, my boyfriend is a sadist, and we go together perfectly. It's all been fun and exciting, but recently I've started craving pain outside of the bedroom. I've used it a few times to calm myself down when feeling manic. I don't know the line between healthy masochism and when it becomes self harm. This is super hard for me to discuss with my bf, because our sadomasochism is a huge part of our relationship. I also don't want him feeling guilty about causing pain, because it's in no way his fault. I have no idea how to handle this or who to talk to.
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