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cinnamoncocoa |
Listener - Connoisseur

Listener Rating
5.0 star rating

NOTE: I keep editing my profile settings but they continue to revert back to claiming I speak all languages. I only speak English. Sorry for the confusion.

Hey, glad you found me! I'm Lee, a nonbinary 7cups intern-graduate and I love to help people. I'm particularly inclined to connect with people struggling with marginalization, gender and sexuality, trauma, and I especially love helping people develop a system for managing and maintaining their wellness. I enjoy making coffee, swapping stories, baking, and writing. I live in EST/EDT timezone.

What do you have experience with?

I'm nonbinary (pronouns they/them/theirs), asexual, pan/grey-romantic, and polyamorous. I have first-hand experience with all the common forms of abuse (physical, mental, sexual, emotional, spiritual, verbal) resulting in cptsd. I also have anxiety, depression, gender dysphoria, phobias, chronic pain, and a few other chronic physical illnesses. I've struggled with eating disorders, self-harm, suicidal ideation, and I'm a recovering addict. I've dropped out of two different colleges, quit several jobs, moved four times in one year, seen several different doctors and therapists, and participated in a number of intersectional activist communities.
I've been through a lot, I'm going through a lot, and I'd love to take your hand and make our journeys together.

What type of listener are you?

I give affirming feedback and ask questions that probe deeper into feelings, thoughts, decisions, etc. I don't give advice and I don't have an opinion about what is right or wrong for you. I have done a lot of research and am always ready to share information and experience on applicable topics, but it's up to you to decide how to apply it if at all. Mostly, you're in charge. I try to get an idea of what you're looking for and I roll with it. If I get it wrong, you can let me know what you want from me.

I'm especially good at giving ongoing support over a few weeks or months and I'm good at hearing about bizarre, heavy, or shocking experiences without reacting to them.

When will I get an answer?

If my status is green, I am available to start new conversations and will respond within 25 minutes

If my status is orange, I am there but may take up to 2 hours to respond.

If my status is red, I am not available and may take up to 7 days to respond.

(pro tip: the circle of color around my profile picture can also let you know. It's blue when my status is green, orange when my status is orange, and grey when my status is red)

If we've established a relationship already, I'm likely to answer you more quickly.
At any time, you're welcome to message me and I will get back to you as soon as possible.

As a listener, what can I contact you about?

Here on 7cups, I am (or have been at one point, I've allowed a few to expire) an intern, a verified listener, a social soldier, a feed team member, a peer supporter, group mod, a listener verification team member, a forum team member and an LGBTQ+ support team member.  Contact me with questions about any of these things, or for listener verification, mock chats, chat moderating, listener support, and discussion ideas.

Keep coming back!  It works if you work it.  <3

Number of Ratings: 61
Number of Reviews: 22
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Listener Since Nov 19, 2015
Last Active over 6 months ago
Gender Non-Binary
Progress Path Step 87
Cheers 65,252
People Helped 84
Chats 1,286
Group Support Chats 64
Listener Group Chats 27
Forum Posts 174
Forum Upvotes 175
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Feedback & Reviews
They are wonderful! They were very familiar with my issues and were able to ask a lot of follow up questions to help me understand myself better. They were very empathetic and also shared some of their experience with the same issue to help me out. Anyone would be lucky to have them for a listener!
Thank you very much for listening.
incredible Listener. takes the time and care to listen and understand you, and also puts in the time to check back again a couple times afterwards. thanks for being such a lovely human being, @cinnamoncocoa
They helped me in a time of crisis and the conversation flowed naturally.
Lee is very kind and patient. They listened to me talk for over an hour and were comforting and compassionate the whole time.
I didn't expect to find someone on here who's so understand and open about non-traditional family structures and relationships. cinnamoncocoa has an incredibly variety of experience and knowledge that makes them really good at hearing my ideas and asking the right questions. Thanks 7cups for training such an awesome listener! If I become a listener one day, I want cinnamoncocoa as a mentor.
I went through at least a dozen listeners before i found cocoa. they've been a lot easier to talk to than most of the other listeners i'd had. i have found some other good listeners since then, but cocoa is still a go-to for when i need a reliably good listener.
Lee has been supporting me for several weeks now and makes me feel very comfortable. They are never shocked by my experiences and never judge my responses. They have helped me see the validity of my feelings and identify the errors in my own thinking. They're kind, experienced, knowledgeable, open-minded, and incredibly helpful to me.
They talked with me about a number of issues for a few hours. Extremely compassionate and understanding. Definitely one of my best experiences on this website
Non judgmental and kind. Made me feel safe and supported.
Helped me a lot with my gender and sexuality. Awesome person.
Good, clearly trained active listener.
they made me feel safe
helped me sort thoughts
good listener. nice.
easy to talk to. asks good, openended questions
Very easy to chat with.
Really kind, open, understanding. they helped me find the answers i have within me and sort through my feelings.
really good, attentative and understanding listener.
This user was friendly and supportive.
Cinnamoncocoa has great insight into anxiety related issues! Great tips and strategies that helped me very much
Absolutely amazing... very helpful when I was depressed.
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