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crimsonPlace1255
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Married but feeling like a single mother
35 & Over Community / by crimsonPlace1255
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 January 27th, 2025
...See more I don’t know what to do anymore. I’m a SAHM with a 4 year old and 9 month old. My husband sleeps in until *usually* I get him up. He goes to work and when he gets home it’s time for the kids to be in bed. On the weekends he also sleeps in… until 4pm if I let him. When he gets up he’s on his phone or only wants to do activities HE wants to do with our oldest. He barely helps with anything around the house, even putting his own clothes away. Half of the time I take the trash out because he just piles things on top instead of walking two seconds to the trash can outside. He only does the lawn care habitually (except during the winter). Our parenting styles are extremely different, he’s more of a bully and pushes our oldest to the point where he’s always crying and practically scared of his dad being mad. He isn’t abusive by any means, but raising his voice to our crying 9 month old because he doesn’t know how to calm him is so wrong. It seems like he is only wanting to parent when the kids are happy and being well behaved… Our relationship you ask? Ha… what relationship. He gets to talk about his work and passion but I feel like everything I do, say, and enjoy is made fun of or he literally ignores me when I’m talking. Oh and I’m from England, which he constantly reminds me is lesser than being American. He has a joke with our son that it’s “bad” and he gets tickled if he says he’s British (which technically he is 50%) and only stops when he says he’s American again. I’d say he’s the bread winner with me being a SAHM, however that’s completely incorrect. I have VA disability money from being in the military that pays for everything. His job barely makes money for his energy drink and nicotine habit. It’s more of his passion and I wanted to let him do something he loves. Theres more but this is already a novel. I don’t know what to do.
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