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cynderislame |
Listener - Discoverer 8

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Hello, everyone! My name is Cynder, I'm a 19 year old girl, and I'm a listener here on 7cups! I specialize in issues dealing with a whole slew of things including mental illness, family issues, and substance abuse, but I'm sure I could help you out with just about everything or at least refer you to someone who would be better equipped to help!
 
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Poem of the Day- Mingus at the Showplace- William Matthews
I was miserable, of course, for I was seventeen, 
and so I swung into action and wrote a poem, 
 
and it was miserable, for that was how I thought 
poetry worked: you digested experience and shat 
 
literature. It was 1960 at The Showplace, long since 
defunct, on West 4th St., and I sat at the bar, 
 
casting beer money from a thin reel of ones, 
the kid in the city, big ears like a puppy. 
 
And I knew Mingus was a genius. I knew two 
other things, but they were wrong, as it happened. 
 
So I made him look at the poem. 
“There’s a lot of that going around,” he said, 
 
and Sweet Baby Jesus he was right. He laughed 
amiably. He didn’t look as if he thought 
 
bad poems were dangerous, the way some poets do. 
If they were baseball executives they’d plot 
 
to destroy sandlots everywhere so that the game 
could be saved from children.   Of course later 
 
that night he fired his pianist in mid-number 
and flurried him from the stand. 
 
“We’ve suffered a diminuendo in personnel,” 
he explained, and the band played on.
How sweet and lovely dost thou make the shame
Which, like a canker in the fragrant rose,
Doth spot the beauty of thy budding name!
O, in what sweets dost thou thy sins enclose!
That tongue that tells the story of thy days,
Making lascivious comments on thy sport,
Cannot dispraise but in a kind of praise;
Naming thy name blesses an ill report.
O, what a mansion have those vices got
Which for their habitation chose out thee,
Where beauty's veil doth cover every blot,
And all things turn to fair that eyes can see!
Take heed, dear heart, of this large privilege;
The hardest knife ill-used doth lose his edge.
Number of Ratings: 110
Number of Reviews: 27
Listens to Over 18
Languages English
Listener Since Aug 28, 2016
Last Active over 6 months ago
Gender Female
Progress Path Step 175
Cheers 32,161
People Helped 164
Chats 259
Group Support Chats 48
Listener Group Chats 38
Forum Posts 48
Forum Upvotes 51
Categories
Depression
Managing Emotions
Bullying
Eating Disorder
Panic Attacks
Anxiety
LGBTQ+ Issues
Parenting
Self-Harm
Sleeping Well
Breakups
Alcohol/Drug Abuse
Family Stress
ADHD
Bipolar
Domestic Violence
Forgiveness
Grief
Obsessive Compulsive Disorder
Social Anxiety
Getting Unstuck
Loneliness
Student Life
PTSD
Disabilities
Relationship Stress
Self-Esteem
Spirituality
General Mental Health
Chronic Pain
Recovery
Growth Path Timeline
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    Completed step number is 168, April 2nd, 2018
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    Provide 1-on-1 Support
    Completed step number is 161, February 11th, 2018

Feedback & Reviews
Took the time to help me out
Lovely person.
Best by far
great
best help i've ever gotten!! super helpful, and very kind!!
Very helpful
I feel so comfortable with her, she's really a good listener
Very helpful and kind. She can help you.
very nice to talk to
GREAT. Super understanding. I needed help with an anxiety issue, and they were GREAT. Really helped me calm down and think about it.
Really thank you for talking me you have no idea how much I need this.
She was great! :)
Great person! Replies could be a little bit faster, but overall you do amazing! keep up the work!
Just an overall great person who actually feels like they are listening. First person to ever speak to about how I truly feel
They have honestly been a massive help - a short conversation has made me feel so much better. Thank you :)
I really appreciated my chat with cynderislame, he or she made quite an impression and I felt better within the first minutes
only listener I've ever had that feels like a real person, love her plus she's funny and cute 10/10
Really kind and caring with a quick response
Sweetheart
This listener is so amazing!
You are amazing!
cynder is a fantastic listener! super sweet, helpful, she cracks a joke every now and again to keep my spirits up. she's my go-to!
Cynder is wonderful
She/He is amazing, they don't take time to reply , and they discuss everything patiently , trying to find a possible solution calmly.
I love her! She's the best listener on the site
really nice
Cynder is such a sweet girl! She suggested I check out the anxiety guide, and she also helped me realize that creative writing helped my anxiety significantly! She even showed me a song to help with intrusive thoughts. Great 7 cups experience!
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Questions Answered
Are mood journals etc, actually helpful?
November 1st, 2016 9:10pm How can I tell my friends and family to support me before, during, and after a panic attack?
November 1st, 2016 9:13pm How can I control my breathing?
November 1st, 2016 9:05pm (This one is for asexuals.) Why don't I feel sexually attracted to anyone? Am I broken?
November 1st, 2016 9:06pm I can’t seem to ever concentrate. My friend says Adderall helps him concentrate. How do I find out if it’s a good option for me?
September 5th, 2016 7:28pm