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Breakup Help
Relationship Stress / by dapperOak463
Last post
 January 10th, 2024
...See more Hi there, Yesterday, I decided to breakup with my boyfriend. We’d been together for just over a year. He was my first love and my first relationship. He didn’t necessarily do anything *wrong.* The relationship just wasn’t working. We are long distance, and communication has come sparse. He never made the time on his own initiative to meet online or call or text - I was often the initiator. I was growing drained, constantly worrying about him and our relationship and finding my own life. It wasn’t going to work, and I’ve been speculating this for a few months now. I feel awful. I didn’t realize how much of him was in my life, and now it’s gone. Anyone have advice for a girly trying to move on? Or for a girl dealing with the initial grief, regret, and confusion of a breakup? Thank you
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Beef between my boyfriend and one of my friends
Relationship Stress / by dapperOak463
Last post
 January 7th, 2024
...See more Some context: I play DnD with a group that consists of some friends, include said friend and boyfriend. Recently, he has told her she cannot play anymore, which has obviously made her upset. His reasoning was that she not only doesn’t show up most of the time, but when she does, she doesn’t engage with anyone there except her girlfriend. She also made jokes that made other members of the table uncomfortable despite them telling her to stop. When he confronted her, she went on a full blown rant on how he was discriminating against her because of her mental health (I saw the texts.) Now today, she came up to me and complained she’d been kicked out, not knowing I already knew, but I played it safe and responded like I was hearing this for the first time. She said he kicked her out because she never showed up, but she said that she had told him before hand she’d be absent a lot, and she said he’d just forgotten she’d told him, and that he kicked her out for no reason. It’s tricky, because I saw the texts, and I know she didn’t tell me the full range of the conversation. On the other hand, I don’t know how I feel about him kicking her out without giving her a chance to change. I’m torn and it feels uncomfortable. Is this my responsibility to get involved in? Do I just remain neutral?
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Racing Thoughts at Night
Anxiety Support / by dapperOak463
Last post
 January 3rd, 2024
...See more Hi! So I stopped taking melatonin recently because it was affecting my sleep patterns and basically keeping me from staying asleep. Without melatonin, I’m able to sleep, but it’s the falling asleep that’s now the problem. I find that I am constantly filled with thoughts at night and my mind won’t stop racing. I feel anxious because of this. Anyone have any ways to cope/relax?
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