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Am I wrong for not liking my future mother-in-law??
Relationship Stress / by decisiveShip1156
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 May 28th, 2025
...See more There’s so much detail, I can’t even imagine where I should begin. It’s quite complicated. I’d be lying if I said I don’t know why I don’t like her. I have many reasons but I don’t feel good about any of them. I was taught to “kill them with kindness” and with that, I am FAILING. I let everything she says or does crawl into my skin. I’ve gotten to the point now that I just ignore her. I know that can’t be healthy. I have such a build up of hatred towards her that I’m now think I have to be the problem. I need to let things go but it so difficult. Some of the reasons that led to me not liking her: * At the beginning of my relationship, she was never warm or welcoming towards me. Never directly mean, just… “blah”. * I later found out that she called me a B****… out of anger for something that had nothing to do with me. * She makes several subtle hints that she intends on being the most important person/woman in her son’s life. * She takes for granted everything he does for her. * She is a very inconsiderate person, especially towards him. * She has no desire to live on her own or do for herself. She’s content living with him and he taking care of her. * She’s selfish and somehow makes everything about her. * I’ve witnessed her be very manipulative towards him. * She does not take any accountability for anything she does. He can express to her how she has hurt or upset him and she’ll just deflect or turn it around as if she’s the victim. * She’s controlling… or at least tries to be. The list could go on but then I would just be complaining. Yes I know I’m past that. I never thought I would dislike her this much but I do. I can’t help it… or can I? At this point, I don’t want to like her. Despite all that… I really do have a wonderful boyfriend and our relationship is so strong and I am so happy… if you can even believe that lol…We are going on 9 years.
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