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...See more Been going through a lot but what has most affected me is the relationship with my babies dad. We both love eachother but we both lost ourselves with all this process. We don’t live together we are both very very young I’m 19 and he’s going to turn 18. We’ve been together for a little over a year. We both love and care for eachother what he’s going through isn’t something he deserves and I feel so useless when I try to help him out he doesn’t really like to share his problems bc he doesn’t feel like it’s valid or in other words worth talking about. I’ve never met his parents it’s crazy bc we have a baby but they knew about me. I did want to meet them but he said they weren’t the type of parents to really care if he’s in a relationship. That changed when he finally told them I was pregnant they kicked him out and it really affected him I told him he could stay with me but he was embarrassed about what my family would think of him. He’s staying with a friend the last time I saw him was when I delivered. During delivery he held our baby fed him bonded but it was only once it’s been 2 months and we haven’t seen each other. We’re in contact. He needs more help then I do his family disowned him they don’t want anything to do with our baby… sometimes he has problems with the people he’s currently living with he tells me he feels alone and I bet he does. But it’s affecting our relationship a lot. I feel like we’re only in contact bc we have a baby. Idk how to help him he’s not very opened to me and I don’t like to pressure him into saying things he doesn’t wanna say but him not fully communicating with me isn’t helping me. I really want to be with him I really want him to come see our baby. We’ve talked about it several times and I’ve told him that I know he doesn’t have any type of special connection with our baby. I know that he’s embarrassed to come see me bc he left when I most needed him After I delivered a week later he stopped talking to me the day he was supposed to see our baby. It really affected me bc he just left I wasn’t blocked or anything my message was just unread until about 3 weeks later he send me a huge paragraph apologizing to me and he understood if I didn’t wanna reply or forgive him he said many other things as to why he left and I decided to let him back in we’re still trying to work things out but it’s been almost a month of us trying to fix things but things are getting now where idk what to do idk how to help him talk to me. I don’t know how I could confront him about what he would like to do with our situation or when he wants to see the baby. I’m just stuck in between waiting to see what happens or talking to him about this in a way he can snap out of it

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