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Share a Sunflower
Positivity & Gratitude / by diplomaticconfucious
Last post
 October 13th, 2018
...See more You never know how much a simple gesture can brighten someone's day or even change their life -- so please let this brighten your day. It's meaning is below the picture in a short tale of a life-altering experience. The Sunflower Challenge began in 2017 when a young man, Danny Wakefield, in Washington state posted of an experience he had that changed his life and the life of another. This is his post below... Last night I bought a sunflower to put on the windshield of someone I'm smitten with. After some consideration I decided not to since we had only been on one date, the night previous. Don't want to come off too strong, right? Anyway, I grabbed the flower on my way out this morning with the intention to give it to someone on my way to work so it didn't die alone. What happened next has left me changed in ways I don't even have words for yet. While I was sitting and drinking my morning joe at the coffee shop (which I typically take to go), I saw a woman reading something with tears quietly and quickly sliding down her pale face. It was like there was a magnet in the sunflower that was being drawn to her, because I knew in that moment she was who I was going to give the sunflower to; she was who I had to give it to. When I got to her table I said, "hey, pardon me. I have this sunflower that I was hoping to give to someone special and that someone I had in mind didn't work out, but I can feel that you're special too, so I want you to have it." Before I could even hand her the sunflower, this complete stranger flew into my arms with tears flowing, and gratitude spewing, as if I was someone she once loved, and lost. It's what she said next that I'm still trying to grip. She was crying because her fiancé had died the week before, just months before they were going to get married. On their first date he brought her a sunflower and from then on, got her sunflowers, never roses, because she was the light of his life. Today, through me, he was able to show her that she'll always be the light of his life and how we as humans have a message to carry that goes far beyond words. I'm shaken, awaken and feeling raw. You never know how much a simple gesture of giving someone a $5 flower will change their life, as well as yours. Life is about giving and being of service to others. I challenge you all to find a way to make someone else's life just a little bit brighter today and be of service. You never know the impact you could have. #SunflowerChallenge So tag a friend, post a flower, brighten a day -- or who knows, change a life. Hey ... @MistyMagic @ASilentObserver @GuardianAngel77 @RumpleSteeleSkin @Gentlesunrise65 @DanaMH @amiablePeace77 @soulsings this bud's for you
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Mindfulness and Setting Goals -- Help?
Mindfulness Center / by diplomaticconfucious
Last post
 August 6th, 2019
...See more Hello Mindfulness peeps... (hope I'm in the right place for this...) I was just thinking about goal setting - something that is actually hard for me to do. I seem to have quite a bit of Murphy's Law at work in my life -- best laid plans of mice and men often go awry. With that awriness comes quite a bit of internal dialogue -- weather patterns of the mind -- that seem to get in the way and often discourage planning in advance. I've taken the route of - do it now, get it done, check it off, and move on OR honestly, its complete opposite - it's not that important, put it off or don't bother. I'm honestly struggling with this idea. As others in my life are trying to plan it for me (long story) and demanding (yes, demanding) a plan of action - I'm forced to alter my methods from its existing format (right now or not) to "what are you doing for the next 10-20 years" (yet, another long story and which is making me feel more out of control of my situation than I like). What thoughts and tips can you share on setting goals (and the steps beyond- action plan, accomplishing, resetting goals after accomplishing it) and doing it all mindfully? Thanks
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Mindful Moments of Coloring
Mindfulness Center / by diplomaticconfucious
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 December 24th, 2018
...See more More and more adults are turning to a passion that was loved as a child - coloring. Choosing colors, choosing their location, choosing how they'll apply the color to the space -- it seems to lift you from your thoughts and into a state of creative relaxation. Maybe it transports us to a time that was simpler -- compared to our whirlwind lives today at least. Articles about coloring and calming the mind> Psychologies UK about Coloring and Mindfulness> https://www.psychologies.co.uk/why-adults-are-going-back-colouring-books 10 Reasons to Color Yourself Calm> https://www.pocketmindfulness.com/coloring-for-adults/ [https://www.pocketmindfulness.com/coloring-for-adults/] Can Coloring Mandalas Reduce Anxiety? A scientific report> https://files.eric.ed.gov/fulltext/EJ688443.pdf [https://files.eric.ed.gov/fulltext/EJ688443.pdf] Now that I have plied you with articles and research, who's ready to color?? I'll try to post various pages a week... so I hope you can take time and enjoy this simple bit of joy. Remember, be kind to yourself. You won't be judged for your work, you don't have to stay in the lines, you don't have to make grass green or the sun yellow if you don't want -- have fun and just scribble away. Helpful hint: To save the page to your computer and print for later enjoyment - right-click the image and choose save as. Remember your saving location for your file so you can find it when you are ready to print. For your mobile device -- each screen cap system is different -- so I hope you know your device. Print, color, and enjoy.
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