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Relationship Stress / by discreetBlackberry9000
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 April 25th
...See more Hello! Two years ago, I was going out with a guy. The first date was great, and we planned a second one. However, I messed up during the second date by arriving 20 minutes late, being sweaty since I tend to sweat easily, and having my hands shake a bit. The fact that the guy commented on these things, saying that I should work on myself to stop being anxious because it is off-putting to the other person, made things worse and I couldn't relax and be myself during the date. At the end of the date, he told me that I should find someone else who would be okay with being with me, which made me feel really bad about myself. A few days ago, I learned that this person is now in a relationship, and I keep having thoughts that if I had been better during the date, things might have been different between us. The fact that I still feel bad even though two years have passed makes me feel even worse about myself. How do I come to terms with my feelings?
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