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35 & Over Community / by fairmindedTortoise4898
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 June 8th, 2023
...See more Train of thoughts today. I haven't been social fot a while but I do have interaction at home and also with family. I realize something. My questions are often will be in context of how to care and help a person because I am a dad and they are also in context NOT to be respect. But people responses are basically not helpful to me and often times nothing or rejected into ending the conversation if considered that. When I respond to questions, others are easy to apply my answers for what ever they ask about. Which means my answers are exactly what is useful to them.so they move on. Which one is more respectful? An answer that is helpful to the person or answers that is not clear and limited. I am curious to see what insights from you. Is this normal, it depends on conversation or what but I am speaking from experience in general Please share you insight
Daughter text and how to take it
35 & Over Community / by fairmindedTortoise4898
Last post
 January 4th, 2023
...See more Hi, hoping to get some feedback from moms or dads or anyone in general abiut texts and kids. Quick backbround. I am father of 2 daughters. 14 and 10. We are in a temporary living situation. We are staying in a two br home. Moyher in law is also staying with us. I get the couch in a open kitchen area. I can tell and vibe everyone has become irratated and annoyed that I stay on the couch. I have been vulnerable for atleast 4 months now because I feel a lone. I have a job situation that has build a finance burden. I couldnt get any presents for anyone like I normally do. I ask about a book if my 10 yo still needs it. Her is her text. First of all, i am not disappointed. Second of all, why would you go walking til 12 am+. That's honestly just stupid. Read that correctly and make sure you don't think I'm saying "you're being stupid." No, I do not need you to borrow book 3 without anyones permission. I do not give you permission to get book, unless it's for yourself. Don't buy things for other people unless they didn't ask for it. The durian you bought last night will only be eaten by you. Mama will not eat it. Why? She has cough, can't you see that? She did not ask for you to buy durian. Please stop wasting and spending money on useless things. We need to save for project. And we can't finish the project when you're just out here spending money when we're trying to save it. Read this paragraph with sense. Don't take this as hating you. If you don't understand this, then try to understand, and read carefully. Please don't borrow Book 3 unless its for yourself to read. I did not ask for you to borrow book, neither did anyone. I know how to borrow and find books from my own school. I hate people who assume. I can not talk with people like that. Do not think I'm saying "You always assume and I'll never talk to you again." No. Read this better with sense. Only get things for yourself, unless others ask you to get it. I do not need the book at all. If you borrow and lend to me, I will not accept. Again, buy and bring things only for yourself. I do not want an apology paragraph and the conclusion being "I'm sorry." Sorry does not fix anything at all. It's just a word. Letters stuck together. I do not ask for you to get me anything. Thanks. This feels like an agressive reply and I feel its due to school or grandma. My wife has been the aggressor this year and I have been more passive. But I havent been able to be involved with school much. Grandma is aggressice as well. And these are the type of replies I get from my 10 yo Welcome any insight. Thanks
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