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funnyVillage1676
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Careful what you wish for
35 & Over Community / by funnyVillage1676
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 April 20th
...See more I broke up with my son's mom about 8 years ago. He was 2 at the time, and it was an ugly breakup. She never let it go and I have spent every single year since then having to step foot in a courtroom and defend myself against all her allegations. I'd list them all out, but then this would be a novel. It got to the point a couple of years ago that I realized this behavior wasn't going to stop, and the court system is all too happy to collect the fees to do anything material about it. I couldn't see a way out of this life unless something tragic happened to her. I literally wished for her death in several occasions. I've been prepping for our second trial, coming up this summer, when she called me last Thursday. She has been in and out of the hospital, but I had no idea why. I grabbed my phone and headed upstairs to my recording booth, cuz I learned the hard way that every convo with her needs to be recorded. I literally repeated to myself "I hope she's dying" several times. Then the hammer dropped. Colon cancer, late stage, chemo isn't even much of an option. My thoughts went straight to my son, and I sobbed. Hard. In spite of my differences with her, she had been doing well in raising our son, who is now almost 10. It was the first cordial conversation I've had with her in almost a decade. She agreed to drop all the court stuff and just wanted to make sure I would keep our son in contact with his sister. I sobbed some more. Really, I've wept every single day since she told me. She told my son on Saturday. He came home to me and we wept together for a while. It's been such a whirlwind of emotions. A person who gladly took on an arch nemesis role for so many years, and who I was literally wishing death upon, now has my deepest sympathies. Life is crazy, life is beautiful. Be good to each other. May God have mercy on her soul and I pray that I see her on the other side so we can share a long embrace. Pray for my son.
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So I met a girl...
Relationship Stress / by funnyVillage1676
Last post
 August 18th, 2023
...See more We've gone out on a couple of dates and we get along great, have similar interests, blah blah all the feel good stuff. We have a strong mutual physical attraction and she wants to move things further along but I just don't feel ready. I had a pretty bad breakup almost 2 months ago and I'm just feeling traumatized and unsure of myself. I probably shouldn't have even gone out with this girl but she was pretty aggressive in pursuing me. Now I find myself enjoying her company, wanting her physically, but still too emotionally raw to trust myself or her with progressing in the relationship. Not sure if I should just end things and let her be free to pursue other men, or keep on being stagnant in the relationship until I get myself sorted out.
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Lonely phase
Relationship Stress / by funnyVillage1676
Last post
 July 17th, 2023
...See more It's starting to hit me now, been almost a week since I broke up with her and I'm feeling the loneliness. I know, it's temporary, I'll readjust to single life soon enough, but it still sucks.
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A year of lies
Relationship Stress / by funnyVillage1676
Last post
 July 13th, 2023
...See more I recently broke up with my gf of 1 year. We are/were coworkers, I'm currently suspended pending an investigation she initiated. We had been keeping it low key for the whole year so no one in the office knew. What led to all of this is my role suddenly got reduced (not demoted) 2 weeks ago. It really got to me and my suspicions of her meeting and speaking discreetly with my boss came to the forefront. I confronted her about it and she confessed to having those meetings but wouldn't provide details. Whether or not that played a part in my reduction was irrelevant to me, I felt absolutely betrayed and ended things with no desire for reconciliation. The day after I ended things with her, I remembered that I had gifted her my deceased mother's Kitchen Aid mixer and texted her asking for it back. Hours went by with no reply which is very unusual for her. We had disagreements before and this was typically her way of holding something against me as leverage but I was not willing to play this game one more time. I reached out to her "ex" bf since we have common friends and he had established a good rapport with her parents. I explained the situation and that I needed help retrieving the mixer. As we were talking though, he revealed to me that he was not in fact her "ex", but they were still an item! She had maintained their relationship on the weeks I was busy with my kids (different relationship). I texted her letting her know her house of cards was crumbling and she replied almost immediately. She told me the Kitchen Aid would be outside her front door and that she was going to report me to HR. She did, and now here I am. She's angry because she was siphoning money from her "ex" who was willing to pay for any bill she told him about and I essentially cut that off. I'm not as bad off as the "ex", who sold his house to help her financially, but I'm incredibly saddened by all of this and will most likely lose my job for it as well. 2 lives upended and reputation ruined over now what looks like a long con job. Devastated.
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