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ghettosmurf
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Coming upto 3rd year angelversary
Grief & Loss / by ghettosmurf
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 April 5th, 2024
...See more next month will be the 3rd angelversary for my son isiah.. year 1 was all shock, year 2 was all acceptance and leading up to year 3 is all sorts of mixed emotions.. some of the emotions nearly as intense as the beginning days.. Isiah was a hit and run victim in my hometown he was on his way home (walking) and he was struck by a truck and left to die.. to this day ten driver and truck haven’t been discovered.. its been a journey that’s for sure.. not a journey I wanted to take at all.. my life had to be recreated, I had to be recreated to find a new normal.. luckily though some days I’m able to forget well not forget but my brain has allowed me to dissociate sometimes which is a blessing or I’d crumble.. I’ve never been this vulnerable before.. I’ve lost many loved ones in my life but nothing compares to watching a casket close on your son and the sand fill the hole where the casket lays.. some days I relive the night isiah died, some days I relive the funeral not by choice.. if only I could completely control these images in my brain and the thoughts
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Wanting some advice on betrayal and how to overcome it
Relationship Stress / by ghettosmurf
Last post
 December 17th, 2023
...See more So long story short..I’ve been married for 10yrs. husband had a low sex drive for as long as we’ve been married.. a few years ago I tragically lost a child.. this year I decided to work on myself to heal and accept the new me and amongst the sh@$storm I discovered my husband (stepfather of my children) had signed up for an online dating site (be naughty which is for hook ups only) according to the chats he never replied.. however I did confront him about this.. he said he done it cos he thought I was going to leave him (wasn’t even a thought in my head I was too focused on my grief and trying to heal me) anyway my question is who do I overcome this betrayal cos I do love this man and want to make my marriage work.. I’m old school and believe in trying to make things work rather than just starting fresh
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Triggers and how to get rid of them
Trauma Support / by ghettosmurf
Last post
 October 17th, 2023
...See more Has anyone had any success in being able to get rid of their triggers?? If so how’d you do it.. I have many from my past which I’ve managed to slowly get rid of however I still have triggers from my late sons death.. anything would be helpful to try.. I need and want my life back this new me doesn’t like what I have to deal with.. I’ve done counselling, grief counselling and therapy.. I’m looking for some self help tips and tools
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Are you okay
Grief & Loss / by ghettosmurf
Last post
 September 14th, 2023
...See more ARE YOU OKAY DAY.. Let’s have those difficult conversations.. to all my beautiful family and friends it’s okay, you have been strong enough for soo long it’s now time to lean on someone let someone else share the weight of your world.. it’s okay to cry and meltdown it’s not a sign of weakness.. not just today but everyday check in on YOUR STRONGEST FRIEND.. even the strongest of ppl needs ears to listen and shoulders to cry on.. TO ALL MY GRIEVING PARENTS OUT THERE.. please take extra care of yourselves I know you may be in a dark time but every lil step is still a step.. just take one minute at a time and accept any help.. GRIEF HAS NO TIME LIMITS.. today could be hard for anyone for any given reason not just today but everyday.. please be kind because YOU NEVER KNOW when someone needed that smile or just to feel like they’ve been seen or heard.. THANK YOU ALL FOR BEING HERE NO MATTER YOUR STRUGGLES YOURE STILL HERE AND FOR THAT YOU SHOULD BE PROUD OF YOURSELF FOR HOW FAR YOUVE COME.. Warmest of hugs to anyone needing one..
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Are you okay??
7 Cups Online Therapy / by ghettosmurf
Last post
 September 15th, 2023
...See more ARE YOU OKAY DAY.. Let’s have those difficult conversations.. to all my beautiful family and friends it’s okay, you have been strong enough for soo long it’s now time to lean on someone let someone else share the weight of your world.. it’s okay to cry and meltdown it’s not a sign of weakness.. not just today but everyday check in on YOUR STRONGEST FRIEND.. even the strongest of ppl needs ears to listen and shoulders to cry on.. TO ALL MY GRIEVING PARENTS OUT THERE.. please take extra care of yourselves I know you may be in a dark time but every lil step is still a step.. just take one minute at a time and accept any help.. GRIEF HAS NO TIME LIMITS.. today could be hard for anyone for any given reason not just today but everyday.. please be kind because YOU NEVER KNOW when someone needed that smile or just to feel like they’ve been seen or heard.. THANK YOU ALL FOR BEING HERE NO MATTER YOUR STRUGGLES YOURE STILL HERE AND FOR THAT YOU SHOULD BE PROUD OF YOURSELF FOR HOW FAR YOUVE COME.. Warmest of hugs to anyone needing one..
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My worst loss
Grief & Loss / by ghettosmurf
Last post
 September 5th, 2023
...See more Hi I’m a first time poster.. I am here because 2yrs ago I tragically and unexpectedly lost my 20yr old son in a hit and run.. no driver has been discovered to date.. I’ve slowly recovered from this loss and just became more clear headed.. however I’ve had set back.. on Friday I had put my Furbaby to sleep she helped me through many difficult times especially the loss of my son.. im scared that I’ll end up back at the beginning of my grief process with all raw emotions that are unbearable.. please feel free to post songs, quotes or anything that may help pick me up.. I don’t wanna spiral into the dark grief hole again
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