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greenEyes2019
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Merely someone looking for a bit of understanding.

"(...) Now I'm not looking for absolution
Forgiveness for the things i do
But before you come to any conclusions
Try walking in my shoes

You'll stumble in my footsteps
Keep the same appointments i kept
If you try walking in my shoes (...)"
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Ashamed of feeling emotions
Depression Support / by greenEyes2019
Last post
 June 28th, 2019
...See more Hello all, Has anyone ever experienced being ashamed of their own emotions and expressing them? Mood disorder has made me numb and weary, but on some occasions I have a breakdown when I cry. At times like that, I tend to spoil relationships and nights out with friends. And even though I do want to apologise and admit that I have a mood problem feeling a certain way I end up experiencing huge shame inside and not telling how I feel. I can even feel shame when I'm on my own, and when I experience some emotion, I feel very ashamed of it just in front of myself. I'd like to dissociate myself from me and my thoughts, but surely it is impossible. Have you experienced anything similar?
How to save friendship?
Relationship Stress / by greenEyes2019
Last post
 May 11th, 2019
...See more Hello good souls, What are the ways to save/revive friendship? For several years, I've been friends with a person who lied to me, but I found out much later. In addition, their mental state would get worse afterwards, so I did not want to throw accusations to make them feel worse about themselves. Having mental issues myself, I was miserable, but still thought I'd wait. But... Since then, the relationship has been worse, with rare and short messages. Then I got to know there are some other friends in their life, and I know I should be happy about, but I can't help feeling left out. I don't really like those people, and I can't fathom why my friend would want to hang out with someone that shallow and caring only about looks. My friend behaves so different when they're around those people. My friend has also casually mentioned about maintaining a romantic relationship that I cannot understand because they get easily manipulated by others. I have a problem with that, too... I can't help feeling angry and upset about it. I'm a young adult, and I realise people have lives and they can (and usually have) multiple friends, however I still feel like a stupid immature child. Jealous? Mad? Left out? Etc. Please does anyone recognise any causes and mechanisms of my feelings? Also, how do you think I could improve my friendship? Lots of love
"Contagious" Depression?
Depression Support / by greenEyes2019
Last post
 July 25th, 2018
...See more Hello lovely beings, I'm just looking for answers, am very confused. They say depression is not contagious. However, how come it affects your closest ones so much? I've been depressed for over 10 years and every time I've tried to tighten a bond with someone, be it friendly or romantic, I would always discourage people and put them off. Now I always try to "warn" people and tell them about my problems and that they should not take too much on their plate. I want to fix myself, but it's always small steps. My question is, are relationships with a person with a mood disorder similar to e.g. codependency in alcohol-stricken relationships? Does a friend/loved one of a depressed person become "ill" in a way as well? What are the mechanisms behind it?
Codependency (Adult Children of Alcoholics)
Addiction Support / by greenEyes2019
Last post
 July 18th, 2018
...See more Hi lovely people, It's great to see so many people reaching out here. I don't know where to put this thread, so I'm creating this Q&A. (@dancingStrawberry34, @Laura, perhaps a separate forum section for codependent people would be nice?) I'd like to reach out today and ask - how would you support an ACA/ACOA (Adult Child of an Alcoholic) friend, while being an ACA yourself? I have been raised in a family in which alcohol addiction devastated everyone, the problem has always been denied, and nothing has been done to solve the problem, and the bomb is still ticking. For that reason, I think can understand people with similar experiences. Recently, my friend has confessed about having some serious issues with her father. The man has had drinking problems all his life, and every time he fails her, he says he's sorry, promises to take some magic pills that supposedly make you sober for life, and often tells her that he knows he lets her down, hence says he has 'no willingness to live anymore.' As I personally don't give people advice, I won't tell her what to do. Especially when the situation is so complex. I just offered her a friendly ear to listen to her probs and shared some addresses/contact info of professionals. But I'd like to find some explanation to his behavioural patterns and listen to your stories and experiences. What are the tricky ways of alcoholics manipulating their family members? Is every alcohol addict a narcissist, gaslighter or a manipulator? Where is the line between empathy and being a victim? I know addicts suffer very much as well, and may feel secluded and left out, since breaking the circle is not easy. I'd just like to learn more about the mechanisms behind alcoholics' behaviour and be able to shed light on ACA-related issues of mine and my friend's. [Note: As I realise not everybody is willing to label themselves as ACA/ACOA for the fear of stigma (I refrain from labelling myself ACA as well), I think realising that codependency really is a problem in alcohol-related problems. In my country, for example, therapy sessions and support groups for Adult Children of Alcoholics are a vital part of Addiction Treatment Centres.] Love, GE
A supportive uni teacher
Depression Support / by greenEyes2019
Last post
 November 12th, 2017
...See more Hello lovely souls, I've been wondering about depression coming-out, if I may call it this way. At the beginning of my academic year, one teacher told us if we suffered from any illness, including mental illness (e.g. depression), we would be welcomed to say so. I remember the teacher say, "Your mental health is very important", and I found it very surprising to have such a great tutor, since it's been my first teacher ever to talk about such matters. One the one hand, I'd really like to admit that I'm depressed and that's why I might sometimes have problems in class, but on the other hand, I wouldn't like to appear weak, resigned and as if I demand some special treating (I don't mean to offend any sufferers, it's just my personal fear). The thing is, do you think it's worth telling your teacher you're a depression sufferer? Especially when depression begins to disrupt your studies again?
Medication: your experience
Depression Support / by greenEyes2019
Last post
 June 3rd, 2017
...See more Hi lovely people of 7cups, I've been wondering if some of you have had any experience with taking medication in mental health issues (servere depression of many years in particular). *I'm also curious about vitamin B3 (niacin) and D supplementation and unconventional medicine practice. I'm aware that meds have some side effects and they don't start working overnight, but I'm actually considering taking them (although I treat them as my last resort). So I'd like to know if my fears are rational. (You know, in many countries psychiatrists are demonised and so are pills/tranquilizers/etc.) I also know medications differ between countries, but perhaps someone would like to share their experiences. You could think of: 1) the type of your medication (what issue it is aimed at) 2) dose&how often you take it 3) how long you have to take it to feel the difference 4) side effects (short-term and long-term) 5) expected treatment time 6) how (dis)satisfied you are with the treatment 7) if depression/your issue fades entirely when/after you take the pill/finish the treatment 8) anything more that comes to mind (suggestions, regrets, happy stories, etc.) Thank you!
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