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hardworkingTortoise4579
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Feeling overwhelmed
Newbie Hub / by hardworkingTortoise4579
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 April 16th, 2023
...See more I'm feeling a little overwhelmed right now because so much has been going on lately. I went months dealing with a co-worker who made things difficult for me before she finally quit, and then one of my other co-workers who I am friends with went to a different building across town (which I am totally happy for her because it was a change she needed,) my sister along with her daughter, her baby daddy, and our parents are getting kicked out of their place this week and will be moving in where I am staying... and the cherry on top is the girl who works the weekends at work so I can have them off is likely leaving (again happy for her). It's just a lot. Oh and on top of all this I need to finally start the process of divorcing my husband.
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Moving on
Trauma Support / by hardworkingTortoise4579
Last post
 November 20th, 2022
...See more It's been a really rough week for me because I left my husband again and am have pretty much accepted that divorce is the next step. Yesterday it really hit me, and I felt a sadness. And I know it is ok to feel sad about the end of "us" when we were together almost 7 yrs. Things weren't always bad or even abusive. Abuse didn't start until about a year after giving birth to our daughter. It started with emotional/mental and then late last year it got brought to a physical level. My mom was in an abusive relationship in the past when I was growing up so I knew the direction things would likely go and so I got out of the situation earlier this year. Moved in with family and got a job within 2 weeks after leaving my husband. I didn't speak to him for months and if I did it was centered around our daughter. And he did go to therapy, which I am grateful he was willing to do, but it has come to my attention recently that it may have not really been working, he may have not been ready to change, because he went back to blaming me for why things went bad between us. I flat out told him how I felt about his therapy after he started blaming me and he told me it didn't work because he knew what he needed to do. On top of that he outright just quit therapy recently due to his car purchase, so he couldn't afford therapy anymore. Things were also already slipping back towards the way things were when the abuse began the first time. I was only staying there part time too so it made it easier to leave again. So now I do feel sadness that divorce is probably our best option for us. But I do feel a little better about it because I did give "us" another chance and him a chance to prove he was willing to change. But I do find myself feeling weak and questioning if looking into divorce is truly the best option.
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New to 7 cups
Trauma Support / by hardworkingTortoise4579
Last post
 December 4th, 2022
...See more Hello 👋 I'm new to 7 cups. I'm a victim of domestic abuse. I finally had the strength to leave my husband earlier this year and was fortunate to get my very first job within 2 weeks after I left with our young daughter. It's been a rough road but I am making it by. I've been staying with family until I am able to get my own place. I tried to give my husband a second chance to change, and he did go to therapy (and was continuing until recently) but I just couldn't feel comfortable around him like used to before the abuse started. This week I have come to the conclusion that divorce is our best option. I'm sad to have to let our marriage go but I know it's for the best for him, I, and our daughter.
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