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...See more I recently dealt with a breakup. Basically we had dated 4 years ago for only a couple of months. A few years ago, everything was going ok and then out of nowhere she broke it off because she said she wasn't ready for a relationship. Fast forward to June of this year and we started talking again and then started dating shortly after. She contacted me first and said she missed me and it went from there. She seemed like she was ready for a relationship this time but after dating for 5 months, she broke it off again, yesterday. Everything was going fine and if it wasn't going fine for her, she never let me know. We had deep conversations, we talked about everything, we laughed, we really connected. She even told me that she thought we had great chemestry. She invited me out with her friends a few times and she even introduced me to her sister, so it's not like things wern't progressing in our relationship. She was very romantic and would get me flowers. She even got me a picture frame with pictures of us in it. I did romantic things for her like that also. I made dinner one night and decorated my place with candles and I thought it was really romantic. There were some concerning things as far as sex goes however. I wanted to have sex with her but she seemed like she was very shy and I never wanted to force anything if she didn't feel comfortable. I realize that for some people, intimate time takes time. Finally we had sex a couple weeks ago and it was amazing and there were sparks and it was really good. I had an orgasm and so did she. But we only had sex that one time. She never gave any indication that she didn't like it. Then out of nowhere about a week ago, she randomly asked me what I thought about a polyamoraous relationship. I told her I wasn't into that at all and that I just wanted to be with her. She told me it was just a question, and assured me that she gets not everyone was into it and that she was commited to me, and that she was just curious if I had ever thought about it. But she should have been up front with me from the beginning if that's what she wanted then. Well then, yesterday, she broke it off...through text...that she can't see it working out and that she doesn't know what she wants. I am now left feeling heart broken. My question is, did I do something wrong? I mean I tried to give her time with sex and seemed like she liked it and I thought I was good. Obviously it's not just about sex, but I thought we had an emotional connection too. Do you think she just wanted a polyamorous relationship? If that is the case, then why would she string me along for months and call me her girlfriend and give no indication that she wanted to be with anyone else but me? I'm just confused and hurt. Are a lot of lesbians like this? Please help. Sorry this was so long.

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