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Number of ratings34 Number of reviews31 Listens toTeens & Over 18 LanguagesEnglish Listener sinceAug 19, 2020 Last activeover 6 months ago GenderFemale PathStep 125 People helped101 Chats571 Group support chats254 Listener group chats29 Forum posts640 Forum upvotes1,347
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Hi, I’m Hope!

 

I am not taking new chats at the moment, but if you have contacted me in the past, please feel free to message me


As a fellow human being, I've been through some rough times, and these experiences have motivated me to help you walk through the bad days



No one should ever have to struggle alone, so I'm here to listen when you need someone to talk to. Feel free to leave me a message if you'd like to talk, I'll reply within 48 hours



A little bit about myself:




I'm on SGT (Singapore time), which is 13 hours ahead of EST

 


I'm an introvert



I'm Christian



I love reading! Books have a special place in my heart because of the adventures they take me on and the lives I get to experience



I love food, animals, and music! They bring me so much joy in life, and remind me that life is full of beauty, as long we are willing to seek it out



Remember:



You’re important, your feelings are valid, and you're loved. Your needs matter, and you deserve kindness and support. Stay safe and take care!



#ByeByeCliques


Topics I do not take: self-harm, sexual health, breakups






Please do not mention blood, bleeding, self-harm methods or objects commonly used to self harm when chatting 1-1 with me. Thank you!

Recent forum posts
Check-in: Navigating Boundaries Around Triggers
Trauma Support / by hopebeyondpain
Last post
 February 25th, 2023
...See more Hello everyone! I hope we're all doing okay today. Whether or not you're having a tough day, I'd like to invite you to come sit down and have a cup of tea (or milk, or soda, or whatever you feel like having right now) with me. It's been over a year since I last posted a check-in in this community, so I don't remember the format we usually use; I hope this is okay. I had a particularly difficult season recently, and wanted to pen down my thoughts about how we could handle situations like that. I hope these ideas will be helpful to anyone who's going through something similar. This is the problem: how do I tell people about my triggers without telling them about my trauma? The thing about trauma is that things that were once trivial and light-hearted can become really upsetting. I'm at the age where many of my peers are interested in dating and relationships, so they talk about it all the time. As a survivor of SA, these topics easily send me into downward spirals that take a long time to recover from. But I didn't know what to say to stop them from talking to me about topics that trigger me. I wanted to be honest with my friends about how uncomfortable I was with topics that trigger me, but I didn't want to talk about what caused these triggers. Thankfully, I have some wonderful friends, who listened when I finally opened up about how uncomfortable they were causing me to feel. But this is a reality I will continue to struggle with for a long time, and it took a while before I came up with better long-term solutions. Still, everyone has a different experience with trauma, and what works for one person might not work for another. So maybe we can simply try to be honest with ourselves about the things that we're not okay with. If you're having trouble with this, maybe try sitting with your discomfort for a few minutes, and see what comes up When you're ready, we can start thinking about what to do about it. If you decide to talk about it, it's possible that not everyone will understand, and that's okay; my friends didn't understand why either. To me, the most important thing was to keep myself safe and stable, and if that meant having a few uncomfortable conversations, then I figured it was worth trying. It you think it will help, maybe you can find a way to try it too I managed my triggers by firmly telling my friends that I wasn't interested in certain topics and didn't appreciate it when they talked about me in certain ways. Someone else might simply walk away from these conversations. Or have an honest discussion with their loved ones about what triggers them and how the people around them can help. Or take a break and practice a bit of self care. Maybe one day, I'll even choose to stay in these conversations, and practise seeing them for what they are: harmless, light-hearted conversations about a topic my friends are excited about; maybe one day I'll work on overcoming my triggers instead of running away from them But for now, this is good enough for me. I hope you'll find something that works for you too ❤️ Check-in questions: 1. What is one thing you can change in your life that would help you to manage your triggers? 2. Can you think of one way you can help a friend who's struggling with triggers? What would you do if you wanted to help but didn't know their story?
Celebrating The Little Victories
Trauma Support / by hopebeyondpain
Last post
 September 6th, 2021
...See more Hey everyone ❤️ I said I’d post this yesterday, so oops sorry for the delay ❤️ I got triggered in school yesterday and didn’t manage to finish this post when I said I would. I decided to take a break instead of forcing myself to finish it - finally took my own advice on self-care! Speaking of which, have you guys taken any small steps lately? Recovery isn’t a straight path, but when we do make a good choice or practice a good habit - that’s worth celebrating! In fact, did you know that celebrating the little milestones you hit makes you feel more motivated to keep going? Your brain learns to associate the healing work with the little flutters of pride and happiness, so it gets easier and easier to move those recovery muscles! The milestone doesn’t ever need to be big - little victories are just as helpful and just as worthy of celebrating ❤️ So give yourself some credit for all the effort it’s taken to get to where you are today ❤️ You deserve it! Prompt: Take a moment to reflect on how far you’ve come ❤️ Doesn’t matter if it’s small or silly - you can be honest about your story here I’ll start: Yesterday, I walked up to a classmate and said hi to her, even though I’ve been feeling really socially anxious lately. I also wrote about how I felt about my trauma after being triggered in school. I’ve been doing gratitude journaling, even if I don’t feel like it. Most importantly, I’m learning to talk about my s*xual abuse, and be honest about the effect it’s had on me. It hurt a lot, but now when I look back I can see how it’s really taken a heavy burden off my heart ❤️ Tagging (to join our taglist, check out this link [https://www.7cups.com/forum/TraumaSupport_60/TraumaSupportCommunityTeam_443/TraumaSupportAutomatedTaglist_219256/1/]): @adaptableLake3534 @adequatelyInadequate @adventurousBranch3786 @Amelia2324 @AstronomySkies @AveryLove @BeenAKiwi @BillyJoeBobb @blueScarf9326 @BrokenDreamsPalace @BrokenMedic @CaptainTrev @CaringBrit @clare7199 @Colorfulcatsofhope @communicativeYard2325 @CoolBeans29 @crimsonLime6525 @crxxtvfl0w @Dannc7c @depressedsatellite1452 @DinaElwy @domesticEmerald50s @emylly @FallenAngel0128 @Feathersfall @FigureskatingEquestrian @Fireskye13 @Fleggles @Gagaintheroom @gentleLand5245 @Ghxstie @goldenSpruce1512 @Grandmaof10 @Greenchoice1 @gregariousBeing5071 @Grits1910 @hillsideblues @honestpanda81 @HonestWarrior6624 @HopeNChayil @HumanPersonThingy @InfinityandBeyond23 @Itisbailey @jovialButterfly6752 @jr50 @jupitermatilde @JustSmilingThruHell @Kekesea11 @Kickiree @Kimmkimm @kindTurtle3738 @LightofWorld @Lilly28 @lionsaether @littleHuman9247 @littleOtter1342 @LordFireStorm71 @lovehummingbirdsCindy @LovelyOrangeJuice @lowkeyem1001 @Lubo123 @Luchelle @lyricalAngel70 @maya6548 @Mellietronx @mkaitx @MVObserver @mytwistedsoul @navyMango2804 @neatBlueberry3608 @neonDog3649 @neonOwl3442 @NevaehRose @Nolanhm @NoneTheWiser @nonethewiser @notmyselftoday @npos25 @oceancruiser48 @Oceanwaves16 @OffDutySeraph @OneWithSugar @ottersngiggles @Parvlakin @pencilmarks @Pidgeymon @PinkestOctopus @politeBunny7572 @purpleWheel873 @QuietLotus @rainbow3140 @Randomperson453 @RansviewTheWizard @ReallyRuth @Rebekahwriter13 @Redhawk6547 @redmark @Rosa9570 @SarahAlaina15 @scarletPear1945 @selfdisciplinedTiger5523 @sensitiveShade5337 @shellofashell @shiningDay80 @Silverviolets @sleepingd0gg0 @SnippyHam @sofiamartino18 @SoulSupporter102 @stickercollection @Storyhymns1234 @Summer899 @SynSavory @Taylorz27 @tealOak8933 @The0Vetoed0System @TheFisherKing @ThisIsLogan @ThreadbareThinker @TransparentPuzzle @Turtlegrrrl8 @u1146 @Understandingempath @UndomesticGoddess @unique73 @uniqueDaisy @Verysadperson101 @WarriorHeartsSystem @weepingwillow5489 @WelcomeToChat @Worrior22Warrior @Writersworld
Announcing New Sharing Circle Hosts!
Group Support / by hopebeyondpain
Last post
 August 5th, 2021
...See more Hey everyone! We hope you're all doing good ✨ We're extremely pleased to announce that we have 9 new hosts that we are onboarding as official hosts! They are @NaiK15, @VicK5123 @Angelx28 @Positiveturtles @jessrabbit7 @FallenStarss @spreadgoodvibesonly @imlistening01 @Rose644 They will be receiving the Sharing Circle badge after successfully completing their trial period and hosting sessions each week with consistency. Congratulations and we're so excited to have you as a part of our team! Let's all congratulate them! Tagging Hosts (in alphabetical order): @ALovelyFriend @Angelx28 @anmitsu88 @April2006 @Artalistens @Aurielll @azuladragon34 @beautyofexistence @BeigeMoonlight @bookworm274 @BrightHeart116 @bubbles2025 @Callmekir @calmingMermaid5761 @cariPassion @Clara139175 @Consideratelove9413 @considerateParadise6717 @Cuddlybeauty8031 @electricEagle4582 @elepantlover101 @EmmaE @FallenStarss @fairyava @FatefulEncounter @forcefulStrawberries7963 @fruitypuppy5858 @gentleSnow748 @goldenFriend9335 @Honeysystem @hopebeyondpain @imlistening01@jessrabbit7 @Kara13V @KateDoskocilova @KatieTheBigRockOne @KayEHS @mamtasha22 @miraculousKoala374 @mouse1710 @mxmes @NaiK15 @Paprika001 @Positiveturtles @Rose644 @roweerainn123 @rrretsuko @sallysalad1233 @Saturn0515 @sia1325 @SimplyyWaves @spreadgoodvibesonly @SophieWX @starmelon7 @SunnyLexi @TheAngelSystem19 @TheResilientDancer @VicK5123 @whenitsdarklookforstars @XCaraphernaliaX @tweetiebirb @SkyLindenHope @trustworthysoul Tagging Leaders: @ASilentObserver @Mimi @PeaceLoveandPaws @bookworm274 @hopebeyondpain
Teen Member Sharing Circle Hosts Spotlight for June!
Group Support / by hopebeyondpain
Last post
 July 30th, 2021
...See more Hey everyone! Hope you've all been well ❤️ Good job on another month of amazing work! Let's now appreciate the hard work done by you, our wonderful hosts, and your support of the community. I thank all of you for your great support and dedication to the community ❤️ Congratulations to @Fallenstarss and @imlistening01 for being our featured hosts for the month of June! @Fallenstarss hosted an incredible 38 sessions in June, and @imlistening01 received amazing feedback this month (which will be posted soon!) Both of them have been awarded 500 bonus cheers! ✨ We would like to award some cheers to show our expression of gratitude and to congratulate them. Below is the list of all the hosts of the month of May and the cheers awarded to them✨ Link to image [https://ibb.co/HY4VDZL] Important Reminder:- Above cheers are awarded on the basis of the tracking forms submitted. The cheers are awarded after checking the number of sessions led according to the submitted tracking forms that must be submitted by each and every host to ensure the proper distribution. We encourage you to fill up the Tracking Forms once a week either after all your sessions of that particular week are completed or please submit on Sunday so as to fill up all the information of that week on the weekend. We encourage all the hosts that while filling up the tracking form, please ensure the username is spelled correctly so that we could accurately check up the forms and award the cheers. ⭐ Weekly Teen Sharing Circle Tracking Form: Find it Here [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSfYlUNzXN5gTbo8DB2uLcNej5_mgxFTMeo4CfL3W2wOFKIOtQ/viewform] ⭐ Interested in becoming Sharing Circle host? : Apply Here [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSfPe2N1QUjB_KEFF_EhAtZymtydkkIFlruU7u0lC35q4eTztA/viewform] ⭐ Feedback Form to share at the end of every session: Find it Here [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLScn1PcHDgrYIF2Wdgjy2suf2yFgnJAMYvkSnn3KXIlh6UIwOg/viewform] Tagging Hosts (in alphabetical order): @ALovelyFriend @anmitsu88 @April2006 @Artalistens @Aurielll @azuladragon34 @beautyofexistence @BeigeMoonlight @bookworm274 @BrightHeart116 @bubbles2025 @Callmekir @calmingMermaid5761 @cariPassion @Clara139175 @Consideratelove9413 @considerateParadise6717 @Cuddlybeauty8031 @electricEagle4582 @elepantlover101 @EmmaE @fairyava @FatefulEncounter @forcefulStrawberries7963 @fruitypuppy5858 @gentleSnow748 @goldenFriend9335 @Honeysystem @hopebeyondpain @jessrabbit7 @Kara13V @KateDoskocilova @KatieTheBigRockOne @KayEHS @mamtasha22 @miraculousKoala374 @mouse1710 @mxmes @NaiK15 @Paprika001 @Positiveturtles @roweerainn123 @rrretsuko @sallysalad1233 @Saturn0515 @sia1325 @SimplyyWaves @SophieWX @starmelon7 @SunnyLexi @TheAngelSystem19 @TheResilientDancer @VicK5123 @whenitsdarklookforstars @XCaraphernaliaX @tweetiebirb @SkyLindenHope @trustworthysoul Please join me in Congratulating and Thanking them for their huge efforts and great support! Tagging Leaders: @ASilentObserver @Mimi @PeaceLoveandPaws @bookworm274 @hopebeyondpain
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Feedback & Reviews
really sweet and affirmative listener who takes the time to understand what you’re going through
Hope, just like her name, gives hope. I can tell that she's really passionate in helping people. She's really kind and non-judgmental even though I was showing my darkest sides. She brought light to my darkest hours. I can't thank you enough for your service here, Hope. May God bless your whole life and family for you are a kind soul amongst this complicated world.
Awesome job love the app like the person who I talked to.
Helpful and can calm me down
She's actually the best. You can tell she puts time and effort into her conversations to genuinely help you as best she can!
They were amazing. Caring, and very supportive. They made me feel seen and heard.
too good. she was amazing.
Hope asked all the right questions. She was very attentive, and i found some solutions to some problems in the end.
She really listened to me and made me feel valued. She was super kind and amazing.
Sweetest person ever ❤️
really sweet and nice
great listner patient and cool
amazing listener
they listened to me made me feel better
This is the best listener I have ever gotten , they stayed with me throughout the whole time I needed them, and never left my side. They new exactly what to say and helped me calm down and in the end helped me stay clean. I appreciate all they have done for me
Loved it! Awesome chat!Loved it! Awesome chat!
I really like it and it helps
Amazing! Super patient and comforting and encouraging. Very sweet.
Loved it!! So very patient and kind and helpful. Definitely felt safe. It was quite nice.
Really understanding and caring. I found the chat very helpful :)
she is really patient and helpful
Shes sweet and kind
Great listener loved talking, thank you so much for helping!!!
This person is a very kind listener, just understands everything.
was very understanding and provided helpful resources
Amazing! Talk to them and already half of your problems seems gone!
Hope was very professional and respectful.
Thanks dear. Helped me a lot. And she is so fast and kind and sweet. Thanks Hope, love
i really like her!
so super and calm and reassuring; helped me so much! you could tell them any problem and they'd look at it calmly and say, okay! that's fine! you don't have to know how to put everything about how you feel in words! they're here to listen and help you sort it all out :)
she is super sweet. she really cares about you, and takes time to explore the options, and just listens. i highly recommend :)
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