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Anxiety Support / by impartialStrings3618
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 October 17th, 2017
...See more Hello everyone Im new to this forum and was just trying to seek out some support and adviced. Ill try to give as much detail as possible. So my name is Kyle— Im currently going through a break up I would say maybe at least a month now. I feel good, I like the fact that I can be single and do whatever I want. My last relationship we were on and off for three years, but recently been together for 8 months. I was dating a guy, yes a guy. Believed to be the love of my life and I would jump backwards for this guy. When things ended back in September of this year, I felt okay. I cried maybe twice. But I handled it better than I normally would have. I believe the relationship was sort of coming to an end because I normally would feel insecure and would feel the need to cheat, and no I have not cheated on him before. I kept thinking about it and didnt like the thoughts. I had feelings for my ex, I did. We hit it off great and been through hell and back Now that Im single, I was talking to this other guy. Lets call him ...Chris. Chris and I have been getting alon fantastic and he actually makes me laugh. I find him physically attractive yes. But I have a tendency to always over think situations and make everything a worse case scenario. I look up things and look too much into it. I looked up rebounds — and now I feel like this guy is a rebound. But I really like him for who he is, he understands me and hes filling the shoes that my ex couldnt fill. I want him around because I enjoy his company and want to do the things with him that I normally wouldnt have done. Ive put a lot of time into and communication with Chris. And he makes me feel good. I dont really compare between the two, but when Im with him ...I tend to lose track of time and just focus on him. When Im by myself, Im stuck in my own head. The moral of the story is — how should I go about this? It doesnt help how my ex and I work in the same place and literally sit directly across from each other. I spoke to my ex about moving on and how I truly do not want to get back with him. Hes left me all confused and just made me all emotionally messed up as a person. As I mentioned I really like chris and want maybe this rebound to come around and work itself out. Hes helping me move on , and I opened up to him about how I felt and he told me hell stay by my side and support me the entire way. He wants a relationship but Im not really ready for one at this point of time, but I did stop talking to other people and he did as well. And every time he compliments me I cant help but smile and get butterflies. Ive been kind of wanting to see other people forma while now back in my previous relationship, and now when I get the chance. Im messing it all up. What should I do? i dont want to lose chris , and its not that Im afraid of being single. Im fine with being single but Id really love the appreciation of someone else. Chris gives me what I need to keep myself happy and weve been talking for almost 3 weeks and didnt start feeling like this until like a few days ago. all honest answers would be so helpful.
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