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indigoBranch21
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Feeling drained + Victimization
Work & Career / by indigoBranch21
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 July 12th, 2024
...See more In my specialization we are two medical residents per year. Unfortunately, my coworker is the absolute worst. I got weird vibes from her at first and then time told. I caught her saying a bunch of lies and making people believe things she is not. But I brushed it off as it was not affecting the work field. Until..we are forced into a master´s degree as part of the specialization and she lied to be telling me we had to partner up. We ended up doing the thesis with other 2 girls..so a group of 4, she didn´t work at all. She would make up lies and excuses not to work, but would post stories about her partying the same moments the rest of us worked. y other 2 teammates wanted to kick her out, including the thesis tutor. We did not, but I went up to my resident tutor (who is also her´s) to get some guidance and help with this. I told my residency tutor about the issue as it was also affecting the ER environment. My coworker would show up 3 hours late to the ER, overloading the rest with work. When she was there she wouldn´t work either. Her answer to my worries about my coworker overloading me and the rest with work was answered with: "sometimes we have to do the work for others". After the 3rd complaint, I told my residency tutor that I was thinking about changing hospitals.And sorry, but I found this unacceptable. Especially coming from the professional..graduate side My first tutor organized a meeting with my service´s boss and with my coworker and I, but separately. Of course they went first and IDK what they said or blamed me for, but when I had the meeting it was the most hostile, passive-aggresive scenario. My boss, who at the time barely new my name, treated me as if I was being charged for some crime. I was basically accused of discrimination and so on and of having some kind of personal gambetta against her. I find it hilarious, because in every single one of my interviews with the tutor I explicitly said it was only a work matter. I do not have any type of relationship with this girl outside the hospital. All this just for asking for help as I believed it was the tutor´s responsability.  I got a tutor change this past January and this new tutor has me under a magnifying glass. It feels like she sets up obstacles to every solution I find to feel more comfortable.Every time she asks me how I feel, I reply as honestly as I can. I tell her that is difficult to work in an environment like the one provoked, that I am taking baby steps, but that I refuse to stay a minute longer than I should and that I am seeking for options not to be for long at the service. When I reply and she sese my worry face, she just clams up and it feels like talking to a wall. She just adopts this *** look like saying: so? what do you want me to do attitude. A lot of little nasty details have occured in the middle: they wanted to deliberately alter my rotation schedule without my consent, I was sent to the psychiatrist because they thought I needed meds (the report basically said I was perfectly fine and all this was due to the work context), they lowered my grade because it was too good.My parents are aware, my dad is a lawyer and he says that there are ilegal things in the way they are treating me. My other rotation tutors have advised me to change hospitals cause they do not think its fair or normal how things are going down. Feeling constantly undervalued, underestimated, annulated and having my feelings invalidated on a constant basis is hard. I have proven and I continue to prove myself professionally. Going to congresses, courses, expositions, having amzing grades, but it seems that any of that counts. It seems that the laziest you are and the less you work, the better. None of my achievements are ever recognized. All my feelings are thrown out the window. The unfairness keeps on going on and the mistreatment thrown under a rug. I am trying so hard to keep myself sane. I just don´t know know what to do. I feel helpless. I feel somewhat desperate. I cannot believe how things like this are actually taking place in such an institution.
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