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Relationship Stress / by intelligentSail4110
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 September 18th, 2021
...See more I’m 21 and in college and the guy I was seeing at home is 22. We started talking in June, then decided to make it official at the beginning of August. Side note he just got out of a 2 year long toxic relationship in may. He was moving pretty fast, saying he loves me and wants this relationship to be his last… telling me he likes me more than he ever liked his ex. He even was about to move down to where I’m at currently (in school) to be with me. He visited me twice and the first time was great, and the second time was literally just last week. My friend from home called me like a month ago and told me to stay away from him bc he’s toxic and told me about things from his past relationship that weren’t good, but I didn’t say anything to him bc he was treating me so good. But he visited last weekend and on Saturday night, I told him about it and it made him really upset. We got over it, but I could tell something was still off. He left Tuesday morning and after his first flight home, he told me he couldn’t stop thinking about it and it made him “miss the good times” with his ex. He said he rushed into this but he wants to be with me and likes me and knows I’m so good for him. Then he started to get distant and just wasn’t responding very quickly at all, wasn’t calling or anything. I tried to talk to him about it but it just wasn’t working. All he was saying was “I want to be together we’re fine everything is completely fine.” So then I tried to end it Wednesday or Thursday and he still was like no I want to be together. Then Friday night, he texted me and said “I don’t think I’m ready for a relationship” (literally right after I said I miss you and he said I miss you more) so then I said I understand so I guess we’re not dating anymore. Then yesterday morning he texts me and is like “no we are” and tries to FaceTime me and text me like nothing even happened. So I brought it up again and said why r u just stringing me along in circles it’s not fair. So he said I’ve told you how I feel. And I asked if he lost feelings and he said “a little” so I said “and u still stand by what you said last night?” And he said yes so I said ok I wish you the best and hope you find what ur looking for. And he just read it and didn’t respond. It just makes me so mad that I was nice about it like I could have totally been mean and went off on him, but yet no response. Is he just going through something right now? Will he come back or was our whole relationship just a big giant lie? There’s no way u fly to see someone twice and get a job where they are so you can move to be with him. Like what even is all of this
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