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inventiveTangerine2803
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PathStep 19 Compassion hearts79 Forum posts10 Forum upvotes6 Current upvotes6 Age GroupAdult Last activeMarch, 2023 Member sinceJuly 2, 2021
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Relationship Stress / by inventiveTangerine2803
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 May 30th, 2022
...See more I’m on a break from a man who loves me, but I no longer love him. We both have issues with our mental health, but I’m the only one getting help. I might break up with him. To make matters worse, as some kind of coping mechanism that my brain had reserved, my obsession for a different guy fired back up. I met this guy eight years ago and have been obsessed/interested in him for almost the entire time. In fact, my obsession was so bad at one point that I ended up in therapy for the first time in 2014/2015. I’m in love with the idea of him (or maybe even with him). I used to have a huge crush on him, and except for during my current relationship and my previous relationship, it never fully went away. He doesn’t like me that way and we were never even friends. (I messed up a lot in the past.) I’m embarrassed and it makes me feel guilty that these feelings are back when I’m technically still in a relationship.
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Depression Support / by inventiveTangerine2803
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 July 6th, 2021
...See more I’m on a break from my relationship with my boyfriend, but I might break up with him. I originally wanted to just break up, but I decided to just try a break first. I initiated the break last weekend and I realized that I’m not able to handle a relationship right now. I know he loves me, but I don’t love him anymore because I can’t handle his problems plus my own. What’s really driving me up the wall though is the fact that I’m imagining a future with this guy I met eight years ago who I used to have the biggest crush on. I never really fully got over my obsession with him unfortunately, and it makes me sick. (I don’t have feelings for him while I’m in a relationship, but when I’m single [or in this case, on a break], I want him so badly.) He has already proven so many times that he wants nothing to do with me, but I still haven’t let him completely go after all of this time. I really don’t understand why. I even went to therapy for the very first time in 2014 or 2015 because of how obsessed I was with him and how I behaved toward him. It SUCKS! (This guy has nothing to do with my break though; I’ve just found that my obsession has been my brain’s choice of trying to cope recently.)
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