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My bf doesn’t trust me
Relationship Stress / by jellybean003
Last post
 November 24th, 2021
...See more So let me start from the beginning. A few months ago I was talking a coworker home from work and me and him are good friends, so we end up talking for a hour or two in the car just about work and things like that. My bf calls and looking back now I immediately regret ignoring the call and texting him that I would call him back later. This hurt him a lot and honestly I really regret it idk what I was thinking. But this ended up hurting him badly. He feels that I cheated on him and that I shouldn’t have been alone in the car with another man that he hasn’t met before for a few hours. Especially since I declined the call. We ended up arguing about it and he was mad for a few days but eventually he said he believes that I wouldn’t cheat but it still seems sketchy. Which is totally understandable. But I don’t know how to prove to him that I didn’t cheat. So that brings us back to last night when we were on the phone he said he went over to his friends family house who he hadn’t seen in a while and they asked about me. So he told them that I could have cheated on him and that he still hasn’t met my parents. So the parents thing since we started dating has been weird. I’ve met his dad once only in passing, and we had plans to get dinner with him but from my memory his dad canceled but he said that I didn’t want to go. I remember being nervous to meet him because I just have anxiety when I meet new people but I knew it was an important step so I wouldn’t cancel that. He met my mom in passing when he dropped me off at my house once. I wanted him to meet my parents but my dad doesn’t really have any interest in meeting him because my bf because he is black. Plus idk if he even would really like my family. And in past relationships I’ve always kept them away from my family because I get anxiety that the person I’m dating won’t want to date me anymore after meeting them. It’s just from a past relationship that I’ve had criticized my family when we were breaking up saying that they were weird and stuff. To me it sounds like he wants to take more serious steps in our relationship but he feels that I might not be ready or he’s pointing these things out to convince himself that I’m not worth it or maybe that I need to fix these things before we take that step idk. I just don’t know what to do to convince him that I didn’t cheat. I know in the back of this mind it will always be there hurting him and that hurts me. The parents thing I plan on fixing as soon as I can. But yeah he told his friends family all that and I was kind of shocked and hurt when he said that and then said “I didn’t paint you in a bad light”, and “I don’t think that mom likes you and they are shocked that we haven’t broken up”. I just don’t know what to do. PLEASE I NEED HELP!!
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I don’t think my bf trusts me
Relationship Stress / by jellybean003
Last post
 December 11th, 2021
...See more So tonight while my bf and I were on the phone he mentioned about a past issue that we had before. Long story short he told his friends parents who he used to live with that I cheated on him a few months back. Which I didn’t I absolutely love my bf and I would never cheat on him I’m just not that person. So what happened was I was driving a male coworker home who I happen to be good friends with. We ended up talking in my car for an hour or two and when my bf called to see if I was ok I didn’t pick up and told texted him I would call back in a bit. When I eventually called him back he asked me what I was doing and I told him what was up and ofc he was upset. I understand his hurt, I should have picked up the phone first of all and secondly I was alone in the car with another man who he hasn’t met before. But all we did was talk about work, but my bf is convinced that I cheated on him. He says that he trusts that I didn’t but he has no proof and it seems sketchy to him and that it will always be this way. Now back to today he told his friends mom that that happened and that he also hasn’t met my parents, which I haven’t really met his dad except for a brief moment, and we’ve been dating almost a year. I’ve asked him to meet my parents but my dad wasn’t interested my mom met him pretty much in passing. I just feel like he won’t like my family personally. But he told his friends mom that and I was kind of hurt and shocked that he would say those things about me and then state that he didn’t paint me in a bad light and that he did believe me that I didn’t cheat. Idk I see that he is wanting more in our relationship and I am happy about that but I’m also hurt that this scar is on our relationship and I don’t know how to prove to him that I didn’t cheat and I never would. PLEASE HELP!!!
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