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kitty54
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PathStep 50 Compassion hearts133 Forum posts112 Forum upvotes138 Current upvotes138 Age GroupAdult Last activeApril, 2024 Member sinceSeptember 19, 2019
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I'm going through a big change in my life and learning to be single again. I was so lost in the relationship, I am unsure what I like but am working towards getting to know me again.... with all yer help :) Upside, despite a long mentally abusive relationship, I am still a glass half full kinda gal, still love and trust people and know life will reward me for my bravery of getting out
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Starting over again with no social circle and no idea where to start
Relationship Stress / by kitty54
Last post
 October 24th, 2023
...See more Hi All, I posted to newbie post and recieved a number of replies from others in the exact same position. As we are chatting back and forth, I have decided to start a thread, not for thoughts but for support for those in the same boat. So, I'm 44, out of a 20 year relationship with a total narricist who did his best, but ultimatley failed to break me. While I wanted out for years, I find that I am totally isolated, living miles from family and no friends close by. Friends I do have are married with families and I realise I need another social circle for the new me without my big lump of a burden holding me back.... I have days I regret getting out because of loneliness, but I know that my life is better out and will be better the more I try. That's what I've figured out, life is not coming to me, I've got to take a deep breath and TRY, put myself out there and trust myself that I am good enough. This thread is for men and women, if you got out but now are floating aimlessly, we will do out best to keep your chin up on down days and pull from your strenght on positive days :) The hardest part is over, it WILL get easier, just don't stop trying and don't lock yourself away. :)
How do I start again and make new friends
Relationship Stress / by kitty54
Last post
 October 23rd, 2019
...See more Hi All, I'm alone for the first time in years. I'm no spring chicken but definatley not over the hill just yet. I've discovered that a lot of friends of ours, were his. I've friends but they live far away mostly and others closer have small kids, partners and can't be helping me get back on track. I live in the middle of the countryside so bumping into people is not an option. There are little or no classes in the area and what is there is not for me. How do I meet likeminded people, who want to grab life and live it now. Also, i'm socially akward, so going into an existing group is likely not an option just now. (still rebuilding my self confidence) thank you
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