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lightCherry479
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Between a Rock and a Hard place
Journals & Diaries / by lightCherry479
Last post
 September 9th, 2022
...See more My boyfriend and I have been dating long distance for about three years. We've been through alot during this time. In the last few months (about 6 months) we've been fighting more often and struggling in general. My partner complained to me that he was upset that he had to come visit me again (I don't drive, I love about four hours away, we've met twice. Both times he came here. I paid for everything but has the first time and we went in half the last time). I agreed to a cruise with him, as that's what he said he wanted and it was a nice compromise. A few weeks ago he messaged me and told me he cancelled the cruise, that he no longer wanted to go and we should put off our visit. He told me that he resents me because I have made no effort to visit him, because my mental health is declining and he listens to me try to figure out my emotions when they get out of control. We think I have BPD but I can't afford a diagnosis. This feels unfair to me. I have made an effort to see him, I just don't think it's fair to ask him or his mother to make a 4 hour drive into an 8 hour drive. I can't afford to get my car fixed to make the drive myself. I basically carried him the first two years of our relationship because his depression was extremely bad. He broke up with me 4 times because talking to me was too much effort. He couldn't go to work or anything. Tonight he told me that I drain him everyday, that I hurt him everyday. Of course I make an effort not.to, but I asked him to tell me when he felt that way and he refused. He said I wasnt beholden to that information. I don't want to hurt him. I feel like my only option at this point is to just spare him the trouble and break up with him. I don't want to, is there anything I can missing, anything I can do?
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What should I do?
Relationship Stress / by lightCherry479
Last post
 February 12th, 2019
...See more For the past two years my best friend (of 8 years) and I have had a bit of a rocky relationship. It started when I asked her (admittedly in a rude why) why she didn't tell me that my boyfriend sent her a nude. (He didn't but I was told otherwise.) She and I had a blow out. After that every few months she or I would get really angry over something just as petty and quit talking for awhile. About a year ago she started seeing a therapist. She saw him for a few months then quit because he told her that I was toxic. I promised to do better, but after 6-8 months I fell off again. She is now seeing a new therapist that advised the same. This time she blocked me on all mediums with no warning or anything. I'm so broken. I've reached out and tried to get help. It's been three months and a massive amount of things have happened that accelerated change. I tried to tell her how much better I could do, but she wouldn't listen to me. Should I wait awhile and try again or just let go?? She means the world to me and I don't want to let go that easily. It kills me to think she could drop me and not even think twice.
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