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lsl8303
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Positivity & Gratitude / by lsl8303
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 December 10th, 2021
...See more Can someome respond confirmed so I know this is working? Thank you!
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35+ Conservative Listener Mom Preferred
General Support / by lsl8303
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 December 6th, 2021
...See more I am looking for a 35 y/o + Listiner who has time once a week for a little bit. I think a good fit for me would be a Moderate or Conservative female who is also an experienced Mom. I find my morals align to the Moderate/Conservative side and I do not want to compromise my morals. I am an easily swayed person and find I am also easily manipulated. I want to make sure my supporter would suppprt me in keeping with my values.
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False Accusations and a Broken Family
Family & Caregivers / by lsl8303
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 December 5th, 2021
...See more A few months ago my father came to me to tell me that my sister was telling my family that she didn't trust my husband and was worried that he might have done something to her 2 y/o daughter because her daughter developed a sudden fear of him after her first birthday. When I addressed her she insisted that she never made any accusations like that and that her daughter said she doesn't want to come to my house anymore and that is why. This is of course a lie. I could literally hear my niece in the background crying to talk to her Auntie and my family has said that she will ask them when they babysit to go to aunties instead. I am very close with my niece. She normally cries her eyes out after leaving and when we talk she says she misses me. She has devloped a fear of my husband picking her up but she is also fearful of Grandpa and every other man who picks her up. When this started he stopped picking her up and repsects her space. My husband doesn't participate in babysitting (he is just to busy with work) so I don't understand why she would use this as a reason. I want to note that my husband/kids are Never (And never have been) around my niece without me AND when she stays the night she sleeps in her pack and play alone with me in my room with the door locked (I fear her getting out of the room and falling down the stairs). I am the only one who ever puts her in the bath or changes her diapers. My husband doesn't want to deal with kids crying in the middle of the night so he literally sleeps in the basement anytime I babysit and is really MIA. Furthermore we literally have cameras All over our house and I have told my sister she is welcome to peek in on her is she is missing her (long before these accusations arose) but she never ask for the camera code. She recently said she was sorry and swares it was all blown out of proportion by my parents but they say she is manipulating me. She has said she doesn't understand why Im making a big deal out of it and keeps trying to flip it on me saying I pressured my Dad into making things up and if I would have just let it go blah blah my fault in her eyes (Side note: My Dad literally drove to my house and tracked me down to tell me because he was so upset she was talking behind our backs to my family!). Also my parents have apologized stating they will never get involved with my sister like that again and they should have shut her down. I told her all I want is for her to come over and stop making excuses and lets just move on. I miss my niece! But here we are 3 months later and She has yet to come visit. There is always an excuse. I love my niece so much but to be honest if it wasn't for my niece I would have told my sister to stick it where the sun don't shine. Its about to be the holidays and I let my family know that I am not comfortable being around her since she clearly is not wanting to move forward. She actually had the audacity to ask if just my kids could spend the holidays with her? She has a history of being sneaky, manipulative and down right paranoid. She was even dismissed from a job in a school for calling Social Services too many times on parents for things like a Mom saying 'her auroa was beautiful', a Dad not allowing his child to use electronics and a parent who admitted he spanked his kid once so she has a history of 'dramatization'. She has told me she is fearful the people in her community will murder her because she is a democrat and they are all mean yet I have seen her on Social Media tell people they deserve to burn alive for their beliefs. I think she is also mad that I don't want my kids there when her husband uses marijuana (this discussion happened a little before this drama). She has done some mean things for instance she called me a white supremacist on our family social media page for saying I didn't support violent riots. She responded saying I wasn't educated and should shut my mouth and listen to her and the more educated people in her circle. She often uses fallacies to try and diminish my worth. (I have a masters in Anthropology and worked in human rights for years. She has a 2 year degree in marketing and runs a clothing business so this is an example of how she tries to manipulate situations ) but I feel some deep obligation to fix this for my family (yes I am the middle child). Can this be salavged or am I wasting my time? It is to painful foe me to be around my niece right now at the holidays. Trying to pretend like nothing is wrong and hearing my niece begging to see me is going to break me not to mention how my poor husband feels. He was in tears talking to mw the other day because he is so angry but feels like he cannot do or say anything. What do I do?
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