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Number of ratings56 Number of reviews24 Listens toOver 18 LanguagesEnglish Listener sinceJul 31, 2016 Last activein last week PathStep 365 People helped125 Chats708 Group support chats43 Listener group chats806 Forum posts283 Forum upvotes511
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Reaching out is a great thing, a strong thing. Sometimes just talking helps. Listeners are eager to acknowledge what's said without judgment; to empathize; to encourage self-reflection, honesty, and mindfulness. There are always choices, no matter how small or undesirable, and those choices can be explored safely.

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Grounding techniques, self-care, healthy distractions

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Site Changes for May 2021
Site Updates / by melonMeloncholy
Last post
 May 20th, 2021
...See more Hello! I'd like to make a general inquiry into the many UI and formatting changes that I and others are noticing throughout the site. Would someone please provide a summary of updates that have been made this month so far, and any further site updaes we can anticipate in this month? I apologize if I missed an announcement where this information was revealed. Will someone also please confirm if the bug report form here is still the best way to report bugs? https://help.7cups.com/hc/en-us/requests/new Thank you.
An Extensive List of Healthy Distractions (& Self-Love Techniques)
General Support / by melonMeloncholy
Last post
 November 25th, 2023
...See more This list includes coping techniques for both in-the-moment stress and long-term challenges, with self-love suggestions, as well as healthy distractions, and grounding techniques, all of which have been compiled from various 7cups Self-Help guides and other 7cups resources. Reference links for more reading are at the bottom of this post. Only you will know which things will be helpful for you to do, and in which circumstances, and that's okay. Please add your own healthy distractions and self-love techniques to this list for other people to be inspired! ___ - Placing something cool on your face and thinking about how it feels, its texture, &c - Putting your feet firmly on the ground and thinking about how the ground feels on your bare feet, ie: grassy, warm, smooth, wooden, rough - Focusing on someone's voice and how it wavers up and down naturally during a conversation - Naming five things you can see in the room, followed by four things you can feel in the room, followed by three things you can hear in or near a room, followed by two things you can smell in a room, followed by one good thing about yourself - Tasting something for the first time, by slowly placing it in your mouth, feeling the texture and the temperature thoroughly, chewing slowly, and enjoying to the last swallow. - Smelling the neighborhood by taking a walk, and recognizing all the fragrances that drift your way, from freshly mowed grass, to flowers, to gasoline - Reorienting yourself by asking yourself what year it is, what season it is, how many more months to your next birthday, &c - Writing yourself a letter to read a year later - Drawing, painting, designing, coding, &c - Doing paper mache, collages, sculpting, &c - Trying to draw yourself in MS Paint - Reading anything (a book, poem, article, &c) - Writing anything (a letter, poem, book, &c) - Planning a soundtrack like your life was a film - Making and flying a kite - Creating a secret code, handshake, language - Imagining alternate endings to stories - Starting a collection or scrapbook - Visiting interesting websites, forums, &c - Going on a picnic - Designing a cartoon character or superhero - Listing your achievements (short/long-term) - Reflecting on how Ive improved - Remembering a more difficult time from the past and how you are not in that more difficult situation anymore - Holding a pilllow, stuffed animal, blanket, or ball - Thinking about pleasant events - Taking a silly photo of yourself - Taking photos of random objects - Listening to expressive music or singing - Remembering how strong you are: you're still here! - Acting, dancing, or playing an instrument - Looking at old photos, old personal poems, art, or expressions - Playing a game, sports, or puzzles - Learning to play a new game - Learn a new skill (juggling, baloon animals) - Washing your car, bike, or pet outside - Looking outside the window - Recognzing and accepting your feelings or urges, and then choosing a color or two in your mind to represent them - Sitting/lying in the sun - Watching people, birds, clouds, stars - Taking a walk - Making a list of tasks/landmarks - Making plans for the future - Enjoying aromatherapy (candles, incense, &c) - Finishing something - Scheduling a day to do nothing at all - Wearing nice clothes around the house - Thinking Im a good person - Watching TV on mute to imagine dialogue - Going to an arcade or playground - Volunteering, joining a class, joining a group - Rearranging your furniture, cleaning - Listening to the rain - Listening to guided meditations or mindfulness exercises - Cooking, baking, and/or finding a new recipe - Drinking a favorite beverage - Eating a favorite snack - Solving riddles/puzzles - Repairing something - Getting a massage, haircut, going to a sauna - Listing why you deserve good things - Listing things you value and things you do not value - Imagining what career you would pursue if you knew you could succeed - Imagining what, if anything, you would say or do if you knew nothing would stop you an dthere would be no consequences - Having a fun mock argument, debate or pretend heated discussion with a friend or stuffed animal that ends in hugs. - Talking with a friend - Listening to others who need help - Meeting or having lunch with a friend - Helping a friend cope - Going to a party - Making a gift for someone - Meditating, yoga, practicing deep breathing - Taking a warm bath - Remembering beautiful scenery and sounds - Gardening and/or arranging flowers - Naming and taking care of neighborhood plants - Exercising or dancing - Allowing yourself a good cry with a pillow or blanket - Listing things you're thankful for - Counting backward from 100 and trying to remember where you lose count. Try to beat your own record. How many times can you count backward from 100 without losing your count? - Listening to the brag of your own heart: I am, I am, I am. - Watching a movie, tv, clips, bloopers, &c - Enjoying a silent moment References: - Pleasurable Activities Exercise (Fulton State Hospital, p. 56) - http://www.rcpsych.ac.uk/PDF/Self-Harm%20Distractions%20and%20Alternatives%20FINAL.pdf - http://www.7cups.com/help-managing-emotions/lesson15.html - https://www.7cups.com/exercises/mindfulness/?showlist=1
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Really kind and patient. She also gave me advices which were really helpful. Best listener I ever had so far here!
Love this listener so much! They’re super helpful and warm-hearted. Always there for me when I need someone to talk to :)
Such an excellent listener— I’m so glad to have connected with them.
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great conversation ..
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great and carring listener. highly recommend
Helped me work through some decisions, great at helping me break down situation and break down thoughts
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She's very sweet and caring. She understood me and I felt heard!
Incredibly kind, caring, compassionate, and friendly! I am grateful for his time, insight, and listening eyes. 10/10, would definitely recommend! Kudos to this awesome listener!
Amazing listener! They helped me so much!
What an amazing person who will hear you out!!
one of the best Listeners i ever had in a long time
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They are an amazing listener and helped me so much.
Where do such lovely people come from? It was honestly such a pleasure to reconnect and talk about a dilemma I'm facing, coming out of it feeling like I have a better understanding of hope for either choice I make.
Shows great empathy and is a very caring listener.
Good listening skills
Melon was incredibly helpful and insightful beyond what I thought possible. We talked for a good two hours and they were involved for every second of it, even to the point of worrying about me after not responding for 15 minutes. It is very apparent that Melon wants to help anyone who's willing to ask for it.
Melon is a really good listener and a kind person. I wasn't judged for what I talked about and I felt much more better after our conversation. I felt like I was heard and by talking it helps. Thank you.
Great listener, friendly, empathetic and wise, I would recommend them to everyone!
She listened so well, and offered helpful sujestions.
Excellent listener, so patient and empathetic. I appreciate their depth of thought and understanding. Thanks again :)
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