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Dealing with a manipulative parent as an adult
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 June 21st, 2022
...See more My entire life my mother has been extremely needy. I remember apologizing when I was in my early twenties because I was spending so much time with my friends rather than at home. Now I am 41, with three children and on a pretty regular basis (every 6 months or so) she will demand that I come to her so she can tell me all of the ways that I have wronged her (from not allowing her to give my children bibles, to how she felt slighted during my wedding ceremony 16 years ago) This just happened again, she sent my father to talk to me and request that I call her to set up a time to come over and continue this ritual. I hold no illusions that I am perfect by any means, I second guess my self obsessively and have no confidence at all. My wife wants me to just cut ties and be done with it, but I can't help but worry that there is something I'm missing, some thing I've done that warrants this kind of ritual. The last time this happened, about 8 months or so ago, i said I needed time away from my parents, it took every bit of courage I had to do it. The time away lasted all of a week before I started receiving angry texts, things like "how dare I keep her from seeing my children" and such. I managed to ignore it for about 5 weeks. It was absolute torture. I was a wreck constantly. I don't know how to resolve this, how to make it stop without completely cutting my family out of my life. I can't keep going like this, it is affecting my marriage and my relationship with my own children, because I'm constantly distant and worrying about the next explosion.
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