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Upcoming holidays
Relationship Stress / by needlenelly
Last post
 December 21st, 2024
...See more I was wondering how everyone who is recently single is preparing for the holidays. I thought I was pretty ok, also because I have to work at Christmas and new years (I'm a nurse), but it is starting to get a little weird being single and without children now that Christmas is almost there. I was feeling happy buying and making personal gifts for my family and friends, really ok with everything. But now I'm feeling a little sad knowing I'm travelling all by myself at christmas eve to my brother. It's a 2,5 hour drive, then dining with my family, as we do every year. The next day I'm heading back to work again untill january 2th. Normal life again but still the feeling that it's different this time, frustrates me (I broke up with a cheating and lying psychopath after 4 years. Didn't know who he really was untill I found everything out in one day and just got out of the door as quickly as I could) Sorry for this chaotic story, but I'm honestly wondering how to get through these days being happy. I don't want to be in a bad mood when I'm with my family. I'm pretty calm about everything that happened, working through my days a little zombie like. But inside my head a lot happens and my heart still hurts.. Every tip or advice is welcome:)
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How to deal with other peoples feelings?
Relationship Stress / by needlenelly
Last post
 November 22nd, 2024
...See more Hey everyone, I broke up with my partner about two months ago. Even though it still hurts and I'm still struggling sometimes, I feel better everyday. I'm finding my peace with it. He made such a mess of my life and his own, having affairs, getting in debt everywhere etc etc. I'm bettsr of and I really realize this. The thing is, he also betrayed some friends of mine. They are very upset because of my situation and their own pain in this. They expect me to be mad about the situation and keep talking about getting revenge. I love my friends deeply, but these conversations are not helping me and also not helping them. I want them to have their own path of grieving and getting through this, but I don't know how to explain to them that this isn't my path. I don't want to be angry or take revenge, I want to leave this all behind and focus on my future. Maybe someone here has any tips to help me explain this in a loving way... ?
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Trying to start over
Relationship Stress / by needlenelly
Last post
 November 1st, 2024
...See more Hey everyone, Still a bit new here and wanting to make my first post. About a month and a half ago my world turned upside down. I overheard my now ex-partner making a phone call with his gp. I heard bits and peaces but realized pretty quickly that it was about an std. He asked for antibiotics. I confronted him with it and he made up some stupid excuse. Then he quickly turned the tables and said he was doubting our relationship. At that point I told him I couldn't look at him like this and left the house. It turned out to be the last time we would see eachother. He left and a few days later I found out more and more troubling information that send me to ***. He was seeing somebody else for almost over a year and in between also a lot of other women and men; explaining the std I guess.. he betrayed a lot of people and friends, because I started hearing stories about loanes, debts, etc. I started searching the house and I found weapons, drugs and soooo many unopened letters. On paper alone I found about 300.000 in debts. At this point I'm almost done cleaning the whole house out, so that I can start over somewhere else. A place my own, my own life. I really trusted this man, feeling so safe and loved. He is the perfect narcassist/psychopath story.. and it confuses me so much that I ever felt for this. I used to be a lawyer before I changed my career to a nurse/docter in training now. In my job as a lawyer I saw so many men like this and still I felt for one... How can this be?
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