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i hate friendship arguments
Anxiety Support / by orangeSpruce8945
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 December 19th, 2025
...See more i just had a fight with my best friend and although we've supposedly ended on good terms i feel like my feelings have still not been acknowledged, as usual. she started it by telling me that she feels like im not there for her emotionally and that i dont comfort her, which really hurt and frustrated me because i genuinely make an active effort to help her out with anything, I'm always checking up on her when she suddenly ghosts me instead of talking it out, and i felt like my efforts were just useless atp. i did take accountability for the times that she felt i wasnt there, and i apologised for it, promising to be more mindful in the future. then, i also told her that she needs to reciprocate, because she is almost never there for me (which i guess is partially my fault because it's hard to be vulnerable), but a few days ago i explicitly told her jow drained im feeling because of life, exams, school stress etc, and that i feel like a shell of the person i once was, to which she replied with "same." nothing else. anyway, the point is that it always seems like between us im always the bad friend, the one who messes up, the one who hurts her feelings, the one who is emotionally absent, when she is those things too, but is unable to admit it. she never admits her faults or takes accountability for her actions, which is unfair, emotionally exhausting and frustrating. plus, when i tried to set boundaries with her by requesting her not to tell her family members about this argument because its a personal issue between us and it will make them view me negatively from her perspective, she claimed that i was forcing her to bottle up her feelings, when that is not what i did at all. i only told her to keep me out of it and not share emotional information about me without my consent, she didn't respect that and tried to turn it around on me as usual. other than that my parents are having their usual passive aggressive arguments that make everything awkward. i feel anxious that I've both hurt a person close to me because i was tired of being the only one in the wrong, but im also hurt because my feelings get constantly neglected.
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