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A broken breakup?!?
Relationship Stress / by passionateBanana4849
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 2 days ago
...See more Hi. I’m really nervous about starting this conversation, but I think I need to just get everything out instead of trying to explain it piece by piece. I’m going through a breakup that I honestly don’t know how to cope with anymore. I still love this person incredibly deeply. we’ve been through a lot together. We were together, we lived in each other’s lives, and he became my person and my home. We broke up months ago, and he has told me that he doesn’t want a relationship with me. The problem is that he never really left my life. He still comes around constantly. We spend a lot of time together. We eat together, talk, watch things together, help each other, and he takes care of me in a lot of practical ways. He still messages me during his day and tells me what’s going on and sends me pictures and things he sees. There is still so much connection between us, but he doesn’t want to be my partner. I love him so much, and I don’t understand how someone can be this close to you and still not want you in the way you want them. I know I can’t make him love me differently, and I know he has the right to feel however he feels, but knowing that doesn’t make this hurt less. Right now he’s actually texting me from work and updating me about his day and sending me pictures of a dog, while I’m sitting here trying to figure out how I’m supposed to cope with the fact that I don’t have the relationship with him that I desperately want. That’s what my life feels like right now—being connected to him and comforted by him while simultaneously being terrified that someday he’s going to find someone else and I’m going to lose him completely. I don’t want to keep talking to my friends and family about it because I feel like I’ve said the same things so many times, and I don’t want to feel like I’m burdening them anymore. But I also can’t keep sitting alone with all of this. This man is at my house everyday morning til night everyday unless he is working and then he is there before and after working. He “provides” monetary support, food, bills, fun stuff, needed stuff, even dumb stuff. We cook together, eat together, watch tv, exist together. But at the end of the day he goes home. No hug, nothing, just a “I’ll see u in the morning” and then he is there waking me up again the next morning. Idk what’s going on, or why, and I’m loosing my mind.
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