philosophicalMango854 Member Profile

...See more So my ex bf and his mom have discussions about me i would not have known until he comes to me and says his mom says this or that. First time he mentioned it to me last year that his mom thought i was lazy this was my 5th time at their house hanging around his mom. She thought i was lazy because they were outside chopping the yard and i was not out there. She thought if i was there i could atleast cook some food. My bf was layghing while telling me i was *** did not want to cause issues so i left it alone. Second encounter i had left a dress, a work uniform, a shorts , a shirt there. I handwashed my underwear and put the rest in his hamper. He washed these 3 peices of clothes the first time. Then she washed it the second time. He comes to me and say my mom says u should start helping with laundry and washing plates. This lady smiles in my face everytime i am there. He then says my mom says if ur acting like this now you'll be the same when u get a ring and he's telling it to me like joke i was mad and left. So i cool my head for 2 days before confronting them about it. I texted him tell him i want to talk to him and his mom and i would his 22 yr old nephew there as a neutral party incase they start some bs didnt tell him that last part just have his nephew. I go ther i start "i have no problem with ur mom , i dont think ur mom is a problem nor do i dislike her, but i wpuld like to take a straw off the camel's aka me back. *Address his mom* has been disrepectful to me at time from taling ti you about me sharing her greivances you carrying this back to me and when she put powder in my hair on my birthday after i said not to. "Stop talking, mom you do not need to respond to this, you need to grab ur things and leave for your own safety" he says this. While he is saying that. "When u come here , you come here to him not me" sge mumbles behind him while she is in my face. So i said "obviously i do but clearly you have some greivances so this is your chance to share them with me withoit the middle man" Bf - "i told you if u come here you can help if u feel like if not dont. When have you ever felt like?" So i'm suppose to go there help you clean? Ask me to wash the plates i use yes ask me not to leave clothes there sure i did not want to leave clothes i would wear his clothes and take my dirty clithes with me to work to go home or straight home if i did not have work, i do not eat at their house i dont make myself anything with their food.i have to be starving near passing out before i do accept anything, i do drink water there did i always wash the cup, no because their sink was always packed with plates if i wash thqt cup and dont wash the others problem so i rinsed my cup secretly and put it back. His mom"guess we were raised different because if i see someone working i wil go and help" Bf - "yes" All the confirmation i needed i got up grabbed my stuff and left. His nephew is in the corner. "Why would you involve my cousin" he continues in my face leaning down to my level so i stand up because you aint gonna do that. "You have crossed a line when i asked you if you wanted to talk to my mom ypu should have done it then and not involve my cousin, ypu will not speek to my mom like she is one of your little friends" I grab the small shopping bag i had with clothes there and his cousin got up helped with my things and told me to text him when i got home safe. Bf- "apologize to my mom before you leave" I did not apologized and left. Was i wrong? No I was respectful did not curse, his coisin was there for this exact blow up. If i had spoken to his mom alone with no one else there. They would gang up on me just like this. I dont live with them, we are not engaged. He does not pay for anything i own, nor what i eat. He asked me to borrow money for him to buy a car i said no i have school. He asked me to borrow money from mom for her to go get loan and he pays it back. My mom is 64 with stage 3 colon cancer going through chemo and she had a stroke in april she cant talk porbably and she is confused at times.

Bio

Recent forum posts

Talk to an expert therapist

Therapy is a worthwhile investment in yourself. I know it may be...

About Us

Get Started

Online Therapy

Terms

Bio