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...See more My brother is angry and paranoid and I am at a loss. It is a complicated story, but in essence, he was working for my husband and my husband fired him. There were many reasons why, all of which were legitimate, but it wasn't handled well by my husband, and my brother now blames me and my husband, and anyone else who defends us. My brother's wife screamed at my mother for leading such a horrible family and left her sobbing on the telephone. When I confronted my brother about that, he made excuses for his wife but never apologized. This is not the first time my sister-in-law has lashed out at our family, but in the past my brother has apologized for her. Not this time. In his last rant, he yelled at my sister and then texted me and my mother with angry texts and ended it with "I have no family." It has been four months since he was fired, and he is as angry as Day 1. I tried to help him (advised him on how to get his job back, but he didn't do it; loaned him money; husband offered recommendation letters) but he doesn't want to do anything to try and get past it. I am so sad for our family because we used to be very close, and now I don't know how (or if) I can help heal the wounds. My husband says it is up to him to reach out, which is probably true, but if that's the case, how do I move on? I think about it all the time and it is weighing me down with depression. I cry all the time about it. I miss my brother.

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