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raeannelyssa
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PathStep 12 Compassion hearts72 Forum posts12 Forum upvotes4 Current upvotes4 Age GroupAdult Last activeJanuary, 2023 Member sinceApril 19, 2021
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Big heart that can’t fix my love
Relationship Stress / by raeannelyssa
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 July 18th, 2021
...See more My boyfriend and I have been together for about 10 months now. We moved in together in April. Shortly after we moved in his actions and behavior began to change. About two weeks ago he finally (drunkenly) admitted to me that he’s been in a dark place. I’ve noticed his drinking had gotten worse and worse. He’s been trying to push me away or telling me to leave. It hurts my heart so much to see him in this kind of pain. I just want to take it all away. Especially after Thursday night, he got possibly to the worst place he’s been in months. I couldn’t do anything to help him. I just sat there and cried with him. I didn’t know what to do to console him. He told me to go to bed, he needed to be alone, so I listened. And I just laid there until he came to lay down with me. His pain and suffering is bringing so much sadness to my life. I can’t stand to see the person I love hurt so much and there’s nothing I can do to help him. Today, he went to go help a friend move. I’m at home cleaning and doing laundry. Just trying to make sure the house is straight, so he doesn’t have anything to worry about. I noticed it started raining, I sent him a text saying I hope it’s not raining on them while they’re packing the truck. He responded with that he’s having a beer alone because his brain isn’t okay. I can’t even respond to him other than saying thank you for telling me he’s not okay and that I’ll give him space. I’ve been praying so much for him and it’s not alleviating his pain. I wish God would step in and help him with some of his burdens he’s struggling with.
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It’s always my fault
Relationship Stress / by raeannelyssa
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 August 28th, 2021
...See more Don’t mind me. I’m honestly here just venting to get things off my chest. Last night my boyfriend and I both went out, him with his friends and me with mine. We both had good nights. I was home before him, so naturally I tucked myself into bed waiting for him to come home. Little background info, my friend that I went out with is one of his friend’s wives. I tend to befriend/hang out with a lot of his friends’ wives. This morning I got a phone call from my friend, asking if I could pick her up because they were arguing. I tell him what’s going on, he calls the husband and a friend that’s neighbors with them. While he’s on the phone with the neighbor friend he’s told that I antagonized the argument by talking with my friend on our dinner date. He told me I had no business talking about what we talked about. However, from the story I’m being told, she never mentioned our conversation to her husband. Her issue was that another girl’s phone was connected to the truck’s Bluetooth and the truck wreaked of a new air freshener. She felt like her husband wasn’t being honest with her. With this argument, I don’t even know who’s telling the truth or not. There’s always three sides of the story; his, hers, and the truth. I really can’t be taking the blame for their trust issues or the argument. They’re grown adults and should be able to control their own temper and rage. I just wish my boyfriend would see it that way too, instead of jumping to conclusions and blaming me. This isn’t the first time he’s blamed me for something. Somehow I always ruin everything, even when I’ve been working so hard to fix everything and everyone.
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Please help
Relationship Stress / by raeannelyssa
Last post
 April 22nd, 2021
...See more Lately my boyfriend and I have been struggling a lot. Tonight we had another disagreement, I really wanna send the following message but idk if I should or not. Look, I’m not trying to kill your vibe or your happiness. I’m just trying to get us back on the same page. Were literally arguing every week about the same thing. You’re too busy with your mc and not paying me the time of day. Whenever I bring it up, you just shut down on me. I don’t see how you can just decide that our conversations aren’t worth the time when you’re on your phone texting everyone else literally all day. You keep telling me that I’m too much, so I tried to find something else to cool down, somewhere else to vent. And as soon as I feel like it’s working for me you start projecting your stress on me even more. This isn’t fair. It’s not fair that I have to find outside sourcing to vent when you feel like it’s perfectly okay to take our all your stress and frustration on me. It has to stop. I can’t handle it anymore. And since you wanted to mention killing happiness and vibes, moving into our new home was supposed to be a happy moment for us. Instead, I’ve been dreading living here everyday. Our roommate is a friend of yours, but I’m the one always having to clean up after her and tell her that she’s fucked up. I didn’t even want her here in the first place. The sad thing is, you even dislike her yourself. So, if you dislike her and think she acts like a child, why is it okay that I have to put up with her bullshit, clean up after her and her dog? Why am I having to sacrifice my happiness to make you and everyone around you happy? I deserve to be happy too? I deserve to have my own little space to go to relax and destrezas from the day. No, instead you have a “man cave”/garage we can’t park in and this dumb bitch put the ugliest tv in the living room that I don’t even wanna watch. All I have is cleaning and doing the laundry, but according to you that’s me doing too much and my ocd getting worse. Like wtf?!
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