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raisin12
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PathStep 59 Compassion hearts46 Forum posts32 Forum upvotes28 Current upvotes28 Age GroupAdult Last activeMarch, 2021 Member sinceFebruary 6, 2021
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Just need to rant I guess
Anxiety Support / by raisin12
Last post
 February 20th, 2021
...See more Im 22 years old and I feel like I’m going through so much right now. My husband said he doesn’t want to be married anymore and that he hasn’t been happy in a while. He said that me crying over the loss of our marriage was making him miserable on top of refusing to acknowledge how he’s hurting me just because he doesn’t care I guess. Now I have to find a new place to live but I don’t have any money I don’t work enough hours for a security deposit right now. I did apply for a promotion but I’m not sure about the status of that. I don’t have a car although my dad said that he would help me with that I still have to pay for registration gas insurance etc. The only places to live I have found all right very expensive Uber ride away from my job. I have to get all new furniture since my husband paid for everything. I have to take out a loan so that I can get money but I can’t access my payslips and was on the phone for two hours with tech-support. I feel like I can’t just mourn the loss of my marriage to the love of my life right now everything else has to go wrong too. At this point I just hope I can get a car and sleep in the Walmart parking lot with my dog. I’m praying I get this promotion and can find a place to live closer to my job so that Ubers would be affordable for the time being. I feel like I’m drowning right now. I wake up multiple times in the night in a panic attack. My husband was my best friend who I always talked to about my anxiety and now I can’t.
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I feel so stupid for holding out hope
Relationship Stress / by raisin12
Last post
 February 19th, 2021
...See more My husband and I are separated and I held out hope for our reconciliation. I thought if we take this time apart to connect with ourselves, we will come back stronger and better than ever. I took this time to work on my self love and becoming more independent and making more friends. Turns out, all the separation did was make it clear that he did not want this relationship anymore. Now I feel like I’ve hurt myself more by holding on to hope.
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Today weighs a little heavy
Relationship Stress / by raisin12
Last post
 February 15th, 2021
...See more Today is my first Valentine’s Day alone in six years. My husband and I are separated (living together still). While we were dating/together, Valentine’s Day was just another silly day, we might have gotten each other something small but we never went all out. Now that we’re separated, it feels like the end of the world. I can’t even talk to my friends with my grief because I don’t want to bother them on their day with their SO. I’m trying to tell myself that I shouldn’t be giving this so much thought, it’s just a day. But then I also tell myself that whatever what makes me sad is worth grieving. I just feel lost and alone. Our dating anniversary is in a few days. I know it’ll feel heavy then too.
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My husband and I are separated but trying
Relationship Stress / by raisin12
Last post
 April 8th, 2021
...See more My husband and I separated last week after four years of marriage and six years of being together in total. It’s been particularly hard still living in the same apartment but not being together anymore. I show a lot more emotion than him, so I’ve cried nearly everyday meanwhile he’s just more detached from me and having more connections with friends. We both know we have things to work on in order for the relationship to survive. And we are both willing to work on ourselves first and heal before we can become healthy for each other. Some days are harder than others and I feel completely lost, while other days I’m hopeful and determined. I know that you cannot put a timeline on these things, it’s just been really hard. Is there any advice on how to make the day to day easier?
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Separated after four years
Relationship Stress / by raisin12
Last post
 February 9th, 2021
...See more A few days ago my husband of four years and I decided to separate. We had been having problems for some time now and we can’t afford marriage counseling. I still wanted to keep trying but he said he wasn’t happy anymore, that the relationship was no longer healthy, and that we needed time apart. We still live together, we have a lease until the end of the year and neither of us can afford to take it over. I’m not sure if we will get back together, although I hope will all my heart we do. He says that there’s a lot we each need to improve about ourselves and that perhaps in the future, we can try again. I cry multiple times a day at losing my best friend, my soulmate. I thought we’d be together forever, I used to tell him our atoms were connected since before the universe was created. I know people separate and divorce all the time but I never thought it would be me
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