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redrosebutterfly
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secret marriage
Relationship Stress / by redrosebutterfly
Last post
 February 22nd, 2021
...See more So i was married then divorced we got back together but not married. During the last breakup when he said he needed a “break” he was cheating on me. But i found out he secretly married this woman and they have no kids together. Weve been together 20 yrs with 2 kids. He moved out got a place with her. anyway after bout a year he moved back in said he wanted to try. so its been almost 4 yrs and yet no divorce even though he keeps telling me he is going to do it. I feel he didn’t value our relationship enough to het this divorce right away. I believe even after he moved back in he was still seeing her and had some sort of sexual relations-with her. Ive caught him in lies several times. I dont know what to do. She even post pics of them togther on fb and he doesn’t even like when we take pics together because he doesn’t want to be on fb. Recent pic they went to lunch he said it was an old pic but she was holding a mask so it was recent last year . He said they just needed to talk about the divorce. Another time he went to a club with his friend and took her with him instead of me. He said she was just there, but they too pics and video of them dancing that she posted. Im at the point im constantly checking her fb page to see what else she has posted. Its driving me nuts and i just dont know what to do.
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he has a “friend”
Relationship Stress / by redrosebutterfly
Last post
 February 22nd, 2021
...See more My husband has a friend (female) he met through a previous job known her about the sam asme 20 yrs. His son from a previous marriage went to school with her kids. Anyway, she is married about 10 yrs older then him. Through phone records he talks to her every day several times a day. Now, weve been together a long time so i know his habbits i know when he is lying and hiding something from me. He talks to her sometimes for hours a day. last time she called we were watching tv and he walked into the bedroom went into the bathroom to talk to her. I confronted he said the tv was too loud he didnt think about turning it down. he never has an issue with this when talking to his friends. And this is not the first time he has waked away or go outside or go into the bedroom. he says they are just friends but in the 20 plus yrs ive only seen her once. should i be worried?
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