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Very discouraged
35 & Over Community / by ruko
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 August 11th, 2022
...See more Hi everyone. Just feeling very discouraged lately. My story is i was born into a cult, escaped, went to college and I'm now in a phd program. I feel discouraged and deceived about the program i'm in and i wonder if I'm wasting my time. Additionally, ive never had a relationship and i barely have any dating experience. I feel so angry. A therapist had told me to do online dating but i get almost no matches and the women who do match will just ghost me. Its so discouraging. I'm also not sure what's going on on the apps but most of the women seem so unattractive and i wonder if they mostly lie about their ages. I see women on there claim to be my age but look like they could be my mother. I think most people would say i'm very attractive and in relatively good shape. The women seem very very unequally unmatched to me. So i feel like I've missed the boat on dating and its so deeply discouraging. So anyways I'm half way through the phd program and i just feel despair. I want to have a family but i missed out. I don't think having a degree will make me happy.
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