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First Break-up...
20 & Over / by sanafontain
Last post
 August 9th
...See more New here and super nervous to post this, but I really just need a safe space to get this off my chest today. ​Sitting outside right now trying to process everything that just went down. Me and my partner broke up this morning, and my head is spinning. ​To be transparent, I made a mistake earlier on in the relationship by not telling the truth right away. I owned up to it, tried figuring this out on my own, and spent so much energy trying to rebuild that trust. But after that, I was placed on permanent trial. Every time we had an issue, my past mistake was thrown back in my face. I felt completely trapped because zero progress was being made, just constant questioning, resentment, and emotional walls. It reached a point where it took his family’s input for him to even make a decision on whether he should leave or not, ending with him giving me a "prove it or leave" ultimatum. ​I wanted to know where we stood on actually trying to repair our relationship, but he never gave me a clear answer or the opportunity to work on it. I was looking for clarity, but he chose to keep me in limbo instead. There is a huge difference between expecting someone to act like nothing happened versus asking them to leave a cracked door open so they can actually witness the effort being put in. ​I know he probably loved me in the capacity that he could, but it just wasn't enough to actually fix a relationship or meet me halfway. Bringing his family into the decision-making made it clear he had already checked out emotionally and was looking for backup to validate an exit he already wanted to take, so why drag it out for so long? Realizing that, I took the exit. I told him I was gone and walked away. ​His final words were that I "never understood him," which hurt so much because I poured everything I had into trying to bridge the gap. I literally had to drag a straight answer out of him just to get closure. Now I'm sitting here dealing with guilt over my past mistake, grief, and feeling really alone knowing he has his family to talk to while I’m processing this by myself in the dark. ​I know healing isn't going to happen overnight and I'm aware this whole thing is going to be a long process. I'm not trying to rush through the pain, I just really needed a starting point to lay it all out. ​If anyone has some words, a distraction, or wants to text, I'd really appreciate it tonight. Thank you for reading.
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First Break-up...
20 & Over / by sanafontain
Last post
 August 8th
...See more New here and super nervous to post this, but I really just need a safe space to get this off my chest this morning. ​Sitting outside right now trying to process everything that just went down. Me and my partner broke up today, and my head is spinning. ​To be transparent, I made a mistake earlier on in the relationship by not telling the truth right away. I owned up to it, tried figuring this out on my own, and spent so much energy trying to rebuild that trust. But after that, I was placed on permanent trial. Every time we had an issue, my past mistake was thrown back in my face. I felt completely trapped because zero progress was being made, just constant questioning, resentment, and emotional walls. It reached a point where it took his family’s input for him to even make a decision on whether he should leave or not, ending with him giving me a "prove it or leave" ultimatum. ​I wanted to know where we stood on actually trying to repair our relationship, but he never gave me a clear answer or the opportunity to work on it. I was looking for clarity, but he chose to keep me in limbo instead. There is a huge difference between expecting someone to act like nothing happened versus asking them to leave a cracked door open so they can actually witness the effort being put in. ​I know he probably loved me in the capacity that he could, but it just wasn't enough to actually fix a relationship or meet me halfway. Bringing his family into the decision-making made it clear he had already checked out emotionally and was looking for backup to validate an exit he already wanted to take, so why drag it out for so long? Realizing that, I took the exit. I told him I was gone and walked away. ​His final words were that I "never understood him," which hurt so much because I poured everything I had into trying to bridge the gap. I literally had to drag a straight answer out of him just to get closure. Now I'm sitting here dealing with guilt over my past mistake, grief, and feeling really alone knowing he has his family to talk to while I’m processing this by myself in the dark. ​I know healing isn't going to happen overnight and I'm aware this whole thing is going to be a long process. I'm not trying to rush through the pain, I just really needed a starting point to lay it all out. ​If anyone has some words, a distraction, or wants to text, I'd really appreciate it tonight. Thank you for reading.
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