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sarab2195
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Military deployment, marriage issues, divorce
Relationship Stress / by sarab2195
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 March 1st, 2021
...See more Me and my husband have been married for about 2 years; I recently moved to the US to follow him because of his job. When I got to the US, at first I felt depressed, confused, alone, didn't know how to start from zero again, also because the place we live in is pretty rural.and he was not understanding my emotions, then Covid started, we went in lockdown and I was literally alone and confused. I think that not being able to make me feel better but just worse, brought him down. He was talking bad about me behind my back, I don't think he really understood how I felt. He became very abusive and controlling, I said that if he kept behaving like that, I was going to leave.... Then he prayed me to stay. He was putting some effort but too much was done already and he wouldn't give me enough time to process my feelings; he would pretend for me to be fine after his blow outs. He went on deployment, met a woman and had sex with her. He told me he didn't want to be married anymore. He came back, told me he wanted to put me on a plane and send me back to my home country. He was so cold to me. He was emotionally abusive, my doctor directed me to family advocacy on base and now I think he is getting therapy. The lady he was having sex with, sent valentines gifts to our house, he lied to me at first, but last night he admitted to me that he had sex and the gifts came from her. He left again for 2 months and came back meanwhile and he was texting me and all.. he even asked me if it was too late to go back, he came back and he wants to do things together but until a certain point. He wants to be friends I think. Idk. He told me he doesn't want to be married because he needs to work on himself now and until he figures himself out, he won't be able to be in a relationship, both with me or someone else. We are basically separated in the same house. ldk what to do. I need advice. I see that know he is trying hard not to bring him anger onto me. I love him. He said he loves me too but not as a husband should.... I would like to save my marriage and I know I have no power over his decisions... I am very confused.
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