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newbie/ looking for strength to let go
Relationship Stress / by shyPapaya9815
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 December 30th, 2017
...See more try to keep a long story to condensed version... was in a loveless marriage. hit it off with a guy that is also married same situation which this couple was a friendly acquantance(not real good friends). It spiraled, we started out just texting/flirting - became stronger and more involved. Was very exciting, deep, turned romantic and intimate, for about 10 months or so. talked everyday, would get wake up texts and good night texts, along with everything else... Both on page we couldnt do anything "real" about it with regards to our home situations at the time. My spouse sneaked through my phone one night and saw text between me and a friend about this guy. nothing detailed just vague. I know i'm not the greatest for doing this, but I didnt tell the whole story - just that I had been flirting and texted this guy only a couple of times and that was it. I texted the other guy the next morning to give a heads up and bam - he basically dropped my like a hot potato. to skip a bit, my husband confronted him and he didnt tell the full details either - but said it was all me approaching him and I made him feel uncomfortable, and he would just ignore me....ouch.... Fast forward to now. For the life of me I can not let go and get over this guy. this all happened about 9 months ago and I STILL think about him and it all no matter how hard I try not to. We do have to still see them every now and then and everyone is friendly. His wife knows nothing. We have talked via text a couple of times since then and he always says he does not want me to lose his number for good and doesnt want me to stop trying to talk to him, but the few times I have he is cold and says he is busy, etc. But still will say he doesnt want me to go away... Anyway - why cant I let go? I really need help /strenght to be able to let go. I ovbiously have no will power, strength, etc. Anybody have any words of wisdom? Sorry was long afterall...
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