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Hi there, my name is Sola. I have a love and passion for supporting people in any way I can! Everyone is going through a lot, but not everyone has a person to talk to about it. So if I can be that person for you, even if it's only one time, for an hour, or even just 10 minutes, I'd be completely honored. If I'm online, please feel free to start a chat. If I'm offline, send me a message and we can set up a time to connect.

“Make a radical change in your lifestyle and begin to boldly do things which you may previously never have thought of doing, or been too hesitant to attempt. So many people live within unhappy circumstances and yet will not take the initiative to change their situation because they are conditioned to a life of security, conformity, and conservation, all of which may appear to give one peace of mind, but in reality nothing is more damaging to the adventurous spirit within a man than a secure future. The very basic core of a man’s living spirit is his passion for adventure. The joy of life comes from our encounters with new experiences, and hence there is no greater joy than to have an endlessly changing horizon, for each day to have a new and different sun. If you want to get more out of life, you must lose your inclination for monotonous security and adopt a helter-skelter style of life that will at first appear to you to be crazy. But once you become accustomed to such a life you will see its full meaning and its incredible beauty.”
— Jon Krakauer



 

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Helpful Tip For Intrusive Thoughts
Personality Disorders Support / by solabee
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July 6th, 2017
...See more So I was going through some old therapy stuff and I found a paper that my therapist gave me some time ago to deal with obsessive and intrusive thoughts. I figured Id share it in hopes that it will help someone like it helped me. I've bolded some of my most-used lines, but they're all so great. --- Using Self-Talk To Stop Intrusive Thoughts Having an intrusive or obsessive thought that you cannot get past? You can try to talk yourself out of it by saying (outloud if you need to) any of the following responses as they apply: -That thought isnt helpful right now. -Now is not the time to think about it. I can think about it later. -This is irrational. Im going to let it go. -I wont argue with an irrational thought. -This is not an emergency. I can slow down and think clearly about what I need. -This feels threatening and urgent, but it really isnt. -I dont have to be perfect to be OK. -I dont have to figure out this question. The best thing to do is just drop it. -Its OK to make mistakes. -I already know from my past experiences that these fears are irrational. -I have to take risks in order to be free. Im willing to take this risk. -Its OK that I just had that thought/image, and it doesnt mean anything. I dont have to pay attention to it. -Im ready to move on now. -I can handle being wrong. -I dont have to suffer like this. I deserve to feel comfortable. -Thats not my responsibility. -Thats not my problem. -Ive done the best I can. -Its good practice to let go of this worry. I want to practice. --- Hope this helps someone! Just be gentle with yourselves! And remember, YOU ARE NOT YOUR INTRUSIVE THOUGHTS.
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