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tallLand8630
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Just started working wife declares it’s only for 22 months!
Relationship Stress / by tallLand8630
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 August 9th, 2023
...See more Hi community, Seeking your advice and guidance. My wife just started working after 10 years of staying home with the now big kids. Within the first month she has decided that working is not for her and will quit within 22 months. The expectation is that like the last decade, I will be the sole breadwinner and provide her with a house and eternal income. I keep feeling the relationship is gone and that I’m just a service provider. I pay for everything. I cook and when I don’t she orders expensive takeaway food that are unhealthy. We don’t sleep in the same room. We never go on dates. We only barely talk together about practical stuff. She is a double degree holder and from a rich family. We have been together for 20 years. I feel the relationship is very disproportional and only thing I’m currently getting out of it is access to my children. What should I do? Only her opinion about things seems valid. I feel she gaslights me but argues with conviction I’m the one thinking the worst about her. How can I address my needs and concerns?
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Life is great … should I divorce?
Relationship Stress / by tallLand8630
Last post
 July 14th, 2022
...See more Hi community, Help needed! My life is great right now from a professional point of view. I have a rather good job but not much development opportunity in the day job. I have worked in building a startup and we just got proper funding based on a x mill. company valuation! However, my wife is not supportive at all in anything I do. We are living abroad and for me to go full time with my startup, I need to quit my job and say goodbye to my health insurance for the family. I have asked my wife to contemplate getting a corporate job (She got masters degree but hasn’t worked since the birth of our first kid almost a decade ago!!). I wake up every morning at 6am to cook lunch, make breakfast and sometimes prep ingredients for dinner. Then drive kids to school. My wife will pick them up at school and drive them to activities. I’m home 7pm, eat dinner together and putting kids to bed by 9:30pm. Wife will keep to herself and possibly sit on the sofa at 11pm until we go to bed. I feel like a ghost in my own life. My dreams have materialized but my wife generally ignores me, gaslight me or doesn’t acknowledge me. Should I divorce?
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