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feeling down
Relationship Stress / by tessa81
Last post
 July 16th, 2018
...See more feeling at a complete loss. experiencing issues in my marriage that just repeat themselves and never go away. i have tried to address them but failed. this is what i am really struggling with (see below). im having a down day today. i take medication for anxiety, but get depressing days -first thing in the morning, husband usually wants to be sexually intimate -soon as the kids are asleep, he wants sexual intimacy -no non-sexual intimacy in between -doesnt respect when i have anxiety, pushes me to be a certain way and reacts when i am not, even when i ask for some space or a minute for myself ....which causes me to have an outburst because he doesnt give me any space -his drinking which is outside of moderation -hes aggressive -he cant just listen when i try and talk to him about something, has to have a forceful opinion and tell me i am feeling the opposite or different to what i am saying which causes major conflict -cant speak to him about his family, he gets defensive and angry -makes me feel like i am always wrong whenever i want to talk -makes me feel like i am on my own and not part of his family -cant expect him to have an understanding about anything i want to talk to him about ....im always explaining, he then blames, criticises or judges..i am made out to be very wrong -most common outcome is me going to bed away from him and time wasted, life passing me by as i spend it in the bedroom looking at the four walls.... wasting my life
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non-sexual intimacy
Relationship Stress / by tessa81
Last post
 June 24th, 2018
...See more hi, im fairly new here.... been having issues with my husband for last few years (2 possibly 3 years), we have a 6 year old and 2 year old. ive had issues with mental health and my husband drinking dependant. only since january trying to be better but things are harder than ever. we are at breaking point, thought we managed to get back on track a little since Friday (no in-depth discussion about unresolved issues though).. but this morning we had a setback and my husband just will not let it go. says hes so disappointed. admittedly i rejected his sexual advances, i just wasnt in the mood. i was desperately trying to get housework done so we could all get ready to go out for a family day as planned and he was constantly interrupting me when i was trying to get stuff done. kissing and touching me, i just wasnt comfortable with it at all. so since then i have been made out to be abnormal and wrong. cant say or do anything right in my husbands eyes. all day he has been completely away from me. no affection at all. i just dont know anymore. he has attempted to advance himself when we came to bed this evening and i made a joke and hes taken it the wrong way and insulted me, saying he wishes his wife was just normal. we have been through a lot and have a lot of unresolved issues. we have had instability between us for the last 2/3 years and i just have no idea how to fix things anymore. no matter what i do, i just feel i am constantly being punished
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