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Anxiety Support / by theRoeDeer
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 July 22nd
...See more Hi. I don't know why simple things feel so hard for me. Like asking a question, sending a message, approaching someone, not knowing if i'm doing something right. Everyone else seems to move through life so naturally while i'm stuck overthinking every little thing. i know these things sound small but in my head, they become huge. I'll spend hours worrying about something that could probably be solved in a one-minute conversation and somehow i still can't make myself do it. i hate that i need reassurance all the time. That i freeze when i don't know what to say. Or go quiet in "group discussions". i hate that i feel like everyone else grew up and learned these things except me. I started college recently, and I can say that I'm trying. Today, I talked to a classmate. I think i made a friend? Hopefully, we'll interact more. It's little progress. Of course, I want to change so tryinh. I want to abandon this part of me quickly. And it feels like it's not fast enough. I wish people don't get the wrong idea that i'm not lazy or..unwilling. I'm just too much of a coward to put myself out there. Get out of my comfort zone. I'm scared of looking stupid, scared of doing the wrong thing, being judged or just messing up. Cuz I mess up all the time. Haha i hope that one day the things i'm terrified of now become things i don't even think about anymore. So here I am, typing ts after crying. I've been thinking about posting this because i genuinely don't know how to fix it anymore. if you've ever been like this, what actually helped? Not "just do it. Be confident." i mean how did you stop obsessing over every little thing like it's life or death? I just want to understand how people get past this because i'm tired of feeling like i'm the only one struggling with things that seem so easy for everyone else. I want to like myself, too.
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