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Did I misinterpret a friends actions and behavior, or is she lying?
LGBTQ+ / MOGII Support / by therecanonlybeone
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 April 17th, 2021
...See more posted this a while ago, and got some good feedback. But I would like some more opinions about this 😊 I have an issue, which I have been dealing with for some time now. I would like some opinions about it. alright. so, here goes. it will be a long story. I have this friend which i have known for a long time. I have been going on trips and vacations with her for a couple of years. During those trips she has said some things and did some things which made me believe that she was interested in more than just a friendship, but she never actually came out to me. For instance: she asked me what i thought of her, asked me if there is any place for her in my life. How i saw the future. While doing a carriageride she wants to share a blanket, and then she is fiddling her fingers through my hair and playing with it. She wanted to take a shower with me. ( i said no) She wanted to live together and have just 1 bed( i also said no) She sat on my lap for no reason. She once came out of the bathroom halfnaked, showed me she had put plastic nipplecovers over her breasts, asked me to feel them and when i hesitated she took my hand and pressed it onto her otherwise naked breast. She tells me she thinks we are more than just friends, and there are more of those examples. At some point i thought she actually was interested in me. But that would have been weird because i still was with my ex-boyfriend at that time.But I as a person fall in love with someone based on their character and not actually looks or gender. So I developed feelings for her after all that. Before that happened I never knew that I was interested in more than just men. When my boyfriend and I broke off a couple of years ago, she was actually not that supportive of me, which surprised me. I went to curacao with her in June last year. I told her about my feelings for her. She was/acted very shocked and told me that she never has had feelings for me. Which was strange to hear because of all the things she had said and done. She said that i saw the whole thing wrong. She told me that i thought she had feelings because that is what i wanted to see,and I interpreted her actions wrong. after that i started to act a bit difficult to her. She got a boyfriend, which i still have difficulty dealing with. what do you think about this? I have heard of lesbian women that have misinterpreted a friend’s behavior. Do you think that I might have misinterpreted her actions, or might it be that she is not telling the truth, because of some reason? Thanks in advance for your comments!
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Questioning if I misjudged my friends behavior because of my own feelings for her
LGBTQ+ / MOGII Support / by therecanonlybeone
Last post
 April 3rd, 2021
...See more posted this a while ago, and got some good feedback. But I would like some more opinions about this 😊 I have an issue, which I have been dealing with for some time now. I would like some opinions about it. alright. so, here goes. it will be a long story. I have this friend which i have known for a long time. I have been going on trips and vacations with her for a couple of years. During those trips she has said some things and did some things which made me believe that she was interested in more than just a friendship, but she never actually came out to me. For instance: she asked me what i thought of her, asked me if there is any place for her in my life. How i saw the future. While doing a carriageride she wants to share a blanket, and then she is fiddling her fingers through my hair and playing with it. She wanted to take a shower with me. ( i said no) She wanted to live together and have just 1 bed( i also said no) She sat on my lap for no reason. She once came out of the bathroom wearing plastic nipplecovers, asked me if i wanted to feel them and when i hesitated, she took my hand and pushed it onto her naked breast. I took my hand off immediately. She told me once that she thinks we are more than just friends, and there are more of those examples. At some point i thought she actually was interested in me. But that would have been weird because i still was with my ex-boyfriend at that time.But I as a person fall in love with someone based on their character and not actually looks or gender. So I developed feelings for her after all that. Before that happened I never knew that I was interested in more than just men. When my boyfriend and I broke off a couple of years ago, she was actually not that supportive of me, which surprised me. I went to curacao with her in June last year. I told her about my feelings for her. She was/acted very shocked and told me that she never has had feelings for me. Which was strange to hear because of all the things she had said and done. She said that i saw the whole thing wrong. She told me that i thought she had feelings because that is what i wanted to see,and I interpreted her actions wrong. I have heard of some lesbian women that before they found out that they were into women, they have misinterpreted someone else’s behavior and actions. what do you think about this? Do you think that I might have misinterpreted her actions, because of the feelings i had for her, or might it be that she is not telling the truth? Thanks in advance for your comments!
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