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toastyCabbage |
Listener - Scholar 7

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Hey there and welcome!

I am toastyCabbage, but you can call me anything you really want. 
I am a Verified Listener and have been through quite a lot throughout my 22 years of being alive - you can probably tell by all of the categories that I have "direct lived experience" in.

What I currently deal with
As of this moment, I'm dealing with heartbreak, my eating disorder and clinical depression. Besides the heartbreak, I've been dealing with the eating disorder and clinical depression for as long as I can remember, but I am getting better slowly! I hope that my experience with those two very sensitive topics can help you feel validated, because it's way more common than you might think.


Other things that I can help with
I am an experienced dominant in terms of S&M / BDSM and have spent the majority of my time within the DDLG dynamic. However, I do have experience with being a hard dom, so do not be afraid to chat with me about this. If you're unsure if what you want to talk about falls under the umbrella terms of BDSM, then feel free to ask; there are no real guidelines, as long as safety, trust and consent is involved.

Please do note that I will not endorse dangerous or illegal behavior and recommend that you seek professional help if you have thoughts about seriously hurting somebody.


Be kind
We're all humans at the end of the day, there is nothing more that I want than just to help out and listen to you. I take long term members and prefer it that way, meaning that I'm more than happy to keep in contact with you over a long time instead of one single chat.

But hey, thanks for reading. I sincerely hope that you find solutions and answers to your problems as your life goes on. You deserve it just like everyone else.


For Norwegian speakers
Hallo! Takk for at du tar en titt på profilen min, jeg håper at alt står til. Ikke vær redd for å snakke med meg på Norsk, har bodd i Norge så-og-si hele livet. Jeg skriver helst bare på Bokmål, men kan forstå Nynorsk bra nokk.

Number of Ratings: 36
Number of Reviews: 33
Listens to Over 18
Languages English, Norwegian
Listener Since Dec 27, 2018
Last Active in last week
Gender Male
Progress Path Step 61
Cheers 47,609
People Helped 146
Chats 1,076
Group Support Chats 0
Listener Group Chats 0
Forum Posts 5
Forum Upvotes 1
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Feedback & Reviews
Very understanding good listener
Really understanding, asks genuine questions and relates very well
Very patient, understanding and made me feel I'm supported. Also, not judgmental. Wonderful listener :)
Amazing listener. Makes you feel valued and appreciated. Helps you open up about your struggles and validates your emotions.
Best listener I found this far. Really a great person overall.
This guy makes me feel super at ease!
Amazing listener, really understands and engages.
Awesome, sweet, attentive and patient listener! Would recommend.
He is a really good listener and after talking to him I felt really great and motivated
very good listener
Extremely compassionate soul. The convos really makes me feel heard and understood. They are really patient even when I find it confusing to explain what I am feeling because I myself don't get me sometimes. They seem like a wonderful being
Hes so helpful and caring!!!!
very responsive and thoughtful
Thanks alot so patient and friendly 😊❤️ Thank u for giving me a chance talking to u wish u all best
very helpful and kind, let me express my emotions fully without judg
Extremely kind and sweet. Was really understanding and allowed me to talk about whatever was in my mind. Their words were comforting. Thank you.
Good listener and communicator
thank you, appreciate it
Really good listener, not too intrusive but gets you to open up a little so they can help you more, personal experience really helps, no judgement
She is positive. She prefers listening to the other person. She quite uplifts you through her supportive replies. Better than a friend or family.
Thsnks for being a pillar for me. I cant explain how much I appreciate it.
Brilliant and understanding.
An incredible listener. Showed compassion and support.
Thank you, xioni! I almost did silly things had I not talked to you.
Very kind, positive and thoughtful. 5 stars, absolutely.
It was a great experience, and he is the best listener you could met.
Helpful. Understanding. Uplifting. Positive. Great Listener
Helped take my mind off my issues and I had a wonderful time
Such a great listener, he takes time to understand the situation, can sympathize with what you’re going through, and also helps with practical observations. I definitely feel better after the chat!
Helpful and nice listener
Kind and empathetic listener who cares. Felt like I was talking to someone who was real. Like a friend.
Such a carrying and good listener. Enjoyed every second of our conversation. Feeling much better thanks to him. :)
Right of the bat, I knew it was going to be worth the chat. Thank you. You are a truly good soul.
Badges & Awards
Listening Ear Long Ears Magnet PenPal Jester of Smiles Clerk of Bear Hugs Ellen Jump Start Depression Eating Disorders Managing Emotions Panic Attacks Surviving Breakups Listener Oath Self Harm Alcohol & Drug Abuse Verified Listener Bullying Chronic Pain Family Stress Sleeping Well Love Bug Refresher Loneliness Guide Affirmative Listening Ace Social Anxiety Managing Bipolar Community 101 Loyal Friend Tick Tock Fellow Friend Steadfast Soul I Steadfast Soul II Steadfast Soul III Reconnection Hero I Reconnection Hero II First Chat First Post Five Steps High 5 Hang 10 Open Door Thankful Heart Gratitude Abound