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understandingPeach9840
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Relationship Stress / by understandingPeach9840
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 June 9th, 2019
...See more so ive been talking to this guy since april online and i live in the uk and he lives in france. ive like, properly fallen for him and we even said i love you to each other and i dont know what it is but we just click, and i know its real because i dont click with people the way i clicked with him and idk i just know. but yesterday we had a really long conversation and he was telling me that he doesnt want me to wait for him and he doesnt want a relationship with me because its too complicated (because of the distance) but its weird because he said he doesnt want to stop talking to me and he doesnt want to lose me but at the same time hes saying that when we eventually meet then ill be unhappy and i asked how he knows that ill be unhappy and he just says every time that he knows, like he has flaws that i dont know about. but i think hes scared, i think hes scared that ill be disappointed when i finally meet him, hes scared that i wont like him as much. but what i dont understand is, if he believes all this, if hes saying he doesnt want a complicated relationship like this then why does he say that doesnt want to lose me? he even said he wants me but i dont understand how he still wants me but doesnt want to just take a chance and stay exclusive with only me? does he want a relationship from me or not? im so confused. and the other thing is i like him so much that whether i like or not, i still will wait for him because i really dont see myself with anyone else. but he said he doesnt want me to do that and he doesnt want to do that with himself, like i guess he doesnt feel confident enough to wait for me. i honestly dont know what to do because i actually do understand where hes coming from but in my perspective id rather take a chance on someone good regardless of whether its complicated because thats how much i love him. its not that i dont think he loves me but i think hes too afraid to take a chance. i just dont know what to do because im not ready to just throw it all away and i dont think he is either because he said he doesnt want to lose me or stop talking to me and i dont want that either.
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